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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 740110" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I totally understand how you feel. The truth is, you should never have to defend your position with him in your own home. I don't know if this is true for you son, but my son, when he lived with us had an attitude of entitlement in regards to our home. He felt that I had no business going through "his" room. I reminded him time and time again that he lost all rights to privacy when he brought drugs into our home and I could go through anything in my house that I chose to. I reminded him that "his" room was afforded to him to stay in while he lived in our house, the one we pay the mortgage on. </p><p></p><p></p><p>My suggestion is to make sure you and your husband are on the same page and have a laid out plan that you both agree to. Give your son a move out date that you and your husband agree upon and stick with it. Make it clear to your son that regardless of whether he has a plan in place or not, the move out date is set in stone.</p><p>This is where it can be really hard because your son may try to guilt you into letting him stay. There is nothing worse than your grown son crying and begging to let him stay. I hope it does not go that way when the time comes, I just want you to be prepared for all possible outcomes.</p><p></p><p>How wonderful that you went for that nice long bike ride. It's so good to do things for yourself.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 740110, member: 18516"] I totally understand how you feel. The truth is, you should never have to defend your position with him in your own home. I don't know if this is true for you son, but my son, when he lived with us had an attitude of entitlement in regards to our home. He felt that I had no business going through "his" room. I reminded him time and time again that he lost all rights to privacy when he brought drugs into our home and I could go through anything in my house that I chose to. I reminded him that "his" room was afforded to him to stay in while he lived in our house, the one we pay the mortgage on. My suggestion is to make sure you and your husband are on the same page and have a laid out plan that you both agree to. Give your son a move out date that you and your husband agree upon and stick with it. Make it clear to your son that regardless of whether he has a plan in place or not, the move out date is set in stone. This is where it can be really hard because your son may try to guilt you into letting him stay. There is nothing worse than your grown son crying and begging to let him stay. I hope it does not go that way when the time comes, I just want you to be prepared for all possible outcomes. How wonderful that you went for that nice long bike ride. It's so good to do things for yourself. Hang in there!! [/QUOTE]
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