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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 690762" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Albie, thanks I am okay, one day at a time. I am kinda in a floaty world, got too much to do.......but here I am. Will apologize in advance from any weirdness coming off my keyboard (see <span style="color: #ff0000">*disclaimer </span>below)</p><p>IB if only that could be reality. I think it is all of our "time".</p><p>What if we all could move into our own tiny houses in the country....hey Pigless has 80 acres.....Pigless could hold CD retreats!!!</p><p>I can't move, son is still in school. But, I can try to create that sanctuary. Set more boundaries.......we all have our limits to what we can tolerate. I have been thinking lately that I would never put my parents through all of this..this crap. And you know what? <em>They wouldn't allow it</em>. My Dad would say something like "You have got to be self sufficient and you can....."</p><p>So maybe that is the trick. Maybe we have devalued ourselves by giving and giving so much that we are in turn devalued in the eyes of our d cs.</p><p>Maybe I will call a moratorium on all crap until I have spent a good amount of time grieving. I will put stickers everywhere "approach with caution.... grieving widow", or like Cedar suggested, an armband or something. The point is that my d cs don't seem to give a rip about how their actions/attitude, affects their parents (oops parent)</p><p>What if we went off the deep end(or pretended to)?</p><p>I wonder how they would deal with it if we were depressed, lazy, irresponsible, didn't bathe or clean? Sat around all greasy smoking pot and drinking? Flip the script as they say.</p><p>Okay, I think I have really lost my marbles........</p><p>It is just so darn frustrating after a lifetime of loving and caring for these babies that this is happening. And as Lil wrote</p><p></p><p>I exhausted myself trying to figure this out.</p><p>It is so so hard to go through this........I really feel for you and Jabber. I do apologize for my ranting.....you guys got to do what you got to do, just as hubs and I did......</p><p></p><p>But now years down the road.......with my two........there is nothing I can do or say that will fix it, and I am done running myself to the ground trying. I hope the case will be different for you guys. People can change and often do.......</p><p></p><p>I am going to go make my stickers and sew an armband. Maybe I'll get a tattoo. Something that sends a statement "Don't mess with Mom she is having one of those days."</p><p></p><p>Our kids should <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> tippy toe on eggshells around us for once......</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/soapbox.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":soapbox:" title="soapbox :soapbox:" data-shortname=":soapbox:" /></p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/beafraid.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":beafraid:" title="beafraid :beafraid:" data-shortname=":beafraid:" /></p><p></p><p>Sorry, not myself lately and still trying to figure out who the heck I am........</p><p>*Disclaimer:</p><p><em><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #ff0000">Apologies for any offensive statements due to stress, loss and emotional roller coasterism intensified by</span></span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #ff0000">lack of empathy received from disgruntled d cs with extreme feeling of entitlement disorder.....</span></span></em></p><p><em>Damn kids......</em></p><p>Leafy (I think)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 690762, member: 19522"] Hi Albie, thanks I am okay, one day at a time. I am kinda in a floaty world, got too much to do.......but here I am. Will apologize in advance from any weirdness coming off my keyboard (see [COLOR=#ff0000]*disclaimer [/COLOR]below) IB if only that could be reality. I think it is all of our "time". What if we all could move into our own tiny houses in the country....hey Pigless has 80 acres.....Pigless could hold CD retreats!!! I can't move, son is still in school. But, I can try to create that sanctuary. Set more boundaries.......we all have our limits to what we can tolerate. I have been thinking lately that I would never put my parents through all of this..this crap. And you know what? [I]They wouldn't allow it[/I]. My Dad would say something like "You have got to be self sufficient and you can....." So maybe that is the trick. Maybe we have devalued ourselves by giving and giving so much that we are in turn devalued in the eyes of our d cs. Maybe I will call a moratorium on all crap until I have spent a good amount of time grieving. I will put stickers everywhere "approach with caution.... grieving widow", or like Cedar suggested, an armband or something. The point is that my d cs don't seem to give a rip about how their actions/attitude, affects their parents (oops parent) What if we went off the deep end(or pretended to)? I wonder how they would deal with it if we were depressed, lazy, irresponsible, didn't bathe or clean? Sat around all greasy smoking pot and drinking? Flip the script as they say. Okay, I think I have really lost my marbles........ It is just so darn frustrating after a lifetime of loving and caring for these babies that this is happening. And as Lil wrote I exhausted myself trying to figure this out. It is so so hard to go through this........I really feel for you and Jabber. I do apologize for my ranting.....you guys got to do what you got to do, just as hubs and I did...... But now years down the road.......with my two........there is nothing I can do or say that will fix it, and I am done running myself to the ground trying. I hope the case will be different for you guys. People can change and often do....... I am going to go make my stickers and sew an armband. Maybe I'll get a tattoo. Something that sends a statement "Don't mess with Mom she is having one of those days." Our kids should :censored2: tippy toe on eggshells around us for once...... :soapbox: :beafraid: Sorry, not myself lately and still trying to figure out who the heck I am........ *Disclaimer: [I][SIZE=3][COLOR=#ff0000]Apologies for any offensive statements due to stress, loss and emotional roller coasterism intensified by lack of empathy received from disgruntled d cs with extreme feeling of entitlement disorder.....[/COLOR][/SIZE] Damn kids......[/I] Leafy (I think) [/QUOTE]
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