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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 690864" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>I don't know if there is a difference between sons and daughters or if it just varies home to home, but I have never had an issue with getting my daughter out. To come and live with me is the very, very last resort to her because I am rigid with my rules. My house, my rules. It was never an issue of being clean, as she is compulsively clean, or theft or anything like that. A few of my rules that were intolerable to her because, in her words, she is an adult?</p><p></p><p>1. No smoking in the house.</p><p>2. No visitors in the house unless I am here and know in advance.</p><p>3. Let me know when you will be home at night. If you won't be home, let me know so I can lock the doors and not worry.</p><p>4. Earn your own money - I am not giving you gas money, a cell phone, spending cash, cigarette money, etc. (She was actually pretty good about keeping a job - at least at first.)</p><p>5. Help around the house and do your part. </p><p>6. Be respectful - no attitude or mouth.</p><p></p><p>Never charged her rent (although I probably should have now that I know her money went to meth). She basically wants to be able to come in my home and act like it is hers, do as she pleases, with whomever she pleases, when she pleases, and let me stand idly by and pay the bills. I won't do that. </p><p></p><p>After the accident and the drug issue came to light and she was diagnosed, I put the stipulation that she had to go to drug counseling ("I am not a drug addict") and get psychological counseling ("I can do it on my own - I don't need help"). She did what she always does, found ANYWHERE to be but here.</p><p></p><p>I do know others who have kids who would just stagnate in their homes for eternity, but not mine. I am just too "strict."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 690864, member: 19905"] I don't know if there is a difference between sons and daughters or if it just varies home to home, but I have never had an issue with getting my daughter out. To come and live with me is the very, very last resort to her because I am rigid with my rules. My house, my rules. It was never an issue of being clean, as she is compulsively clean, or theft or anything like that. A few of my rules that were intolerable to her because, in her words, she is an adult? 1. No smoking in the house. 2. No visitors in the house unless I am here and know in advance. 3. Let me know when you will be home at night. If you won't be home, let me know so I can lock the doors and not worry. 4. Earn your own money - I am not giving you gas money, a cell phone, spending cash, cigarette money, etc. (She was actually pretty good about keeping a job - at least at first.) 5. Help around the house and do your part. 6. Be respectful - no attitude or mouth. Never charged her rent (although I probably should have now that I know her money went to meth). She basically wants to be able to come in my home and act like it is hers, do as she pleases, with whomever she pleases, when she pleases, and let me stand idly by and pay the bills. I won't do that. After the accident and the drug issue came to light and she was diagnosed, I put the stipulation that she had to go to drug counseling ("I am not a drug addict") and get psychological counseling ("I can do it on my own - I don't need help"). She did what she always does, found ANYWHERE to be but here. I do know others who have kids who would just stagnate in their homes for eternity, but not mine. I am just too "strict." [/QUOTE]
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