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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 690877" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>There's this very liberal/socially aware part of me that thinks these things sound terrible. Kids being labeled? Homes for the handicapped? Boot Camps? Not going to high school? </p><p></p><p>Then a bigger part of me thinks of my parents - My father went to 6th grade and my mom to 8th. They were decent, hard-working people and they expected more for me and my brother. We were bright and they expected us to go to school, get high school diplomas. For some reason, they expected college from me...not my brother. He went to college after I was out of law school, nights, my parents weren't even alive. He went to work after high school and got married young. (Three times lol.) My mom did NOT want me in law school. She was really upset with me when I went and said, "You'd go to school forever if you could pay for it." I didn't know until after she died that they'd been dipping into their very insufficient savings to help me. My mother's goal for me was simple. She wanted me to work in air conditioning. She'd been a cook in hot kitchens her whole life. </p><p></p><p>But darnit, people are needed in trades too! People need construction workers and welders and mechanics and maintenance men. People are needed in "service" jobs. People need cooks - not Cordon Bleu Chefs, but cooks - and waiters and janitors and window washers and store clerks. Not everyone has to get a college degree. </p><p></p><p>Makes me feel so old to say, "back in the day" this is how it was done...but there was a lot that was better. A lot of bad too, don't get me wrong. We don't want to go back to the racism and small-mindedness. No one wants the McCarthy era again...but somehow, the world seems to have lost something in our rush to improve. Equality is a good thing...but not everyone is created equal...not because of their race or economic status, but they don't all have the same ability. I could never be a firefighter or a doctor. My husband can't be an artist or a professional musician. I'm never going to win a footrace or a singing competition and I couldn't even as a kid. I don't deserve a trophy just for competing. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yeah...I'd look that up on Snopes or something. I totally doubt that. Most of the stuff on FB isn't true. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes! I agree with you...but it seems that we've gone too far the other way. It seems that the world and the people in it are NOT getting better. There are more and more and more kids like ours. Is it that we're too easy on them? You needed some accommodations that you didn't get. Your problems should have been caught and things done to help you learn how to learn. </p><p></p><p>Maybe that's it. Maybe instead of teaching kids how to learn, they're having too much done for them? Schools and such have turned the corner from teaching to enabling? </p><p></p><p>Like I said, it doesn't seem to be better. So maybe we're all doing it wrong?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 690877, member: 17309"] There's this very liberal/socially aware part of me that thinks these things sound terrible. Kids being labeled? Homes for the handicapped? Boot Camps? Not going to high school? Then a bigger part of me thinks of my parents - My father went to 6th grade and my mom to 8th. They were decent, hard-working people and they expected more for me and my brother. We were bright and they expected us to go to school, get high school diplomas. For some reason, they expected college from me...not my brother. He went to college after I was out of law school, nights, my parents weren't even alive. He went to work after high school and got married young. (Three times lol.) My mom did NOT want me in law school. She was really upset with me when I went and said, "You'd go to school forever if you could pay for it." I didn't know until after she died that they'd been dipping into their very insufficient savings to help me. My mother's goal for me was simple. She wanted me to work in air conditioning. She'd been a cook in hot kitchens her whole life. But darnit, people are needed in trades too! People need construction workers and welders and mechanics and maintenance men. People are needed in "service" jobs. People need cooks - not Cordon Bleu Chefs, but cooks - and waiters and janitors and window washers and store clerks. Not everyone has to get a college degree. Makes me feel so old to say, "back in the day" this is how it was done...but there was a lot that was better. A lot of bad too, don't get me wrong. We don't want to go back to the racism and small-mindedness. No one wants the McCarthy era again...but somehow, the world seems to have lost something in our rush to improve. Equality is a good thing...but not everyone is created equal...not because of their race or economic status, but they don't all have the same ability. I could never be a firefighter or a doctor. My husband can't be an artist or a professional musician. I'm never going to win a footrace or a singing competition and I couldn't even as a kid. I don't deserve a trophy just for competing. Yeah...I'd look that up on Snopes or something. I totally doubt that. Most of the stuff on FB isn't true. Yes! I agree with you...but it seems that we've gone too far the other way. It seems that the world and the people in it are NOT getting better. There are more and more and more kids like ours. Is it that we're too easy on them? You needed some accommodations that you didn't get. Your problems should have been caught and things done to help you learn how to learn. Maybe that's it. Maybe instead of teaching kids how to learn, they're having too much done for them? Schools and such have turned the corner from teaching to enabling? Like I said, it doesn't seem to be better. So maybe we're all doing it wrong? [/QUOTE]
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