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I am afraid of my 19 year old sons temper
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 750756" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Jay Pee made a good point. It is harder to do the program while they are there. But in my group of about ten, several are still married to the addict and they still drink/use/both and they live together. They just learn how to do the program as best they can without enabling. Many who have come and gone have gotten divorced over time. Some come for their kids who are addicts, like us, and usually by the time they come, the kids no longer live at home. But some do at least at first.</p><p></p><p>In our group the focus is on us. We take turns talking and nobody can interrupt us, argue, or give advice. There is mostly talk about situations from our point of view and what worked for us. There is little talk about the addicts struggle because the program is for us to learn to deal better with having an addicted love one. If time permits we have cross talk at the end. Sometimes we go out for coffee afterward and talk more there.</p><p></p><p>I am sure each program is different. We have mostly women of various ages whom I love and trust. My husband is one of two men.</p><p></p><p>I have one more suggestion. I learned that breaking things is violence. If you are afraid of your son they have domestic abuse shelters everywhere and your child CAN be the abuser. I have never gone so I don't know much about that. But I do know there are places to stay overnight at at our shelter and trained counselors to talk to. Your son should never hurt you any more than you would allow anyone else to hurt you.</p><p></p><p>Have a blessed night. Try not to worry</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 750756, member: 23706"] Jay Pee made a good point. It is harder to do the program while they are there. But in my group of about ten, several are still married to the addict and they still drink/use/both and they live together. They just learn how to do the program as best they can without enabling. Many who have come and gone have gotten divorced over time. Some come for their kids who are addicts, like us, and usually by the time they come, the kids no longer live at home. But some do at least at first. In our group the focus is on us. We take turns talking and nobody can interrupt us, argue, or give advice. There is mostly talk about situations from our point of view and what worked for us. There is little talk about the addicts struggle because the program is for us to learn to deal better with having an addicted love one. If time permits we have cross talk at the end. Sometimes we go out for coffee afterward and talk more there. I am sure each program is different. We have mostly women of various ages whom I love and trust. My husband is one of two men. I have one more suggestion. I learned that breaking things is violence. If you are afraid of your son they have domestic abuse shelters everywhere and your child CAN be the abuser. I have never gone so I don't know much about that. But I do know there are places to stay overnight at at our shelter and trained counselors to talk to. Your son should never hurt you any more than you would allow anyone else to hurt you. Have a blessed night. Try not to worry [/QUOTE]
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