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<blockquote data-quote="WornOutFather" data-source="post: 668756" data-attributes="member: 19619"><p>As most parents on here, I could write a book as my first post describing the issues with my 19yo son. I'll shorten it as I'm just looking for some advice.</p><p></p><p>First. He currently lives at home. He has no vehicle because he crashed his after 2 weeks and I cannot buy him another one. He can't keep a job longer than a month because, well, he's lazy and calls in "sick" all the time or just doesn't show up - RIGHT NOW, he is supposed to be at work, but I have no idea where he is, and he's NOT at work.</p><p></p><p>He went to a few therapy sessions 12 months ago. He's a manipulator but the therapist wasn't letting it work on her. He was there for medications. She told him he probably needed anxiety medications but that she wasn't going to give me a script unless he was going to stop smoking pot so she could figure out if it was helping. </p><p>He is self-medicating with POT, tons of it. And apparently he gets Prozac from friends.</p><p></p><p>My son failed out of community college the first semester because he just didn't feel like going.</p><p></p><p>Ok, so that's about HIM.</p><p></p><p>His attitude at home is horrible. Yes, there are moments of "wow he so pleasant" but then when he doesn't get what he wants, he's calling (or texting me) bad names, cussing up a storm and is just horrible. He left home a couple times but always ended up coming back when his friends didn't want him mooching anymore. I HATE the idea of my first born son being homeless, so I ALWAYS let him back. I then kicked him out once because he got violent and threatened to kill himself (manipulation, remember). I got police involved and suicide prevention and they called his bluff. So I kicked him out. Then, 2 months later, let him back in.</p><p></p><p>He has stolen cash and gift cards. Got into my paypal accounts and bought stuff. (we're only talking about $200-$300 but still). He will lie, lie, lie about something I have physical proof off (ya know, caught red handed) and then he continues to lie calling me an idiot.</p><p></p><p>This morning, as I sit here after calling in sick so I could deal with this, I am fed up. He stole money again yesterday (still denies it). He broke into my email accounts for some reason. Found a bottle of prozac pills in his room (40-50 pills). He didn't go to work. I have no idea where he is. </p><p></p><p>I am lost. I have 3 other younger kids in the house and they are seeing all of this. Mind you, rarely, rarely will I fight with my son. I have been overall calm with him, and if it was going to be heated, I would have my wife take them somewhere. But, the kids aren't dump. They know there are issues.</p><p></p><p>I don't want him here. I don't feel bad about not wanting him here. But, we live in MN and it's starting to get cold. He has NO money, NO car, maybe still has a job, but NOWHERE to go. How can a father, a God-fearing father, kick his son out to be homeless? Thanks for listening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WornOutFather, post: 668756, member: 19619"] As most parents on here, I could write a book as my first post describing the issues with my 19yo son. I'll shorten it as I'm just looking for some advice. First. He currently lives at home. He has no vehicle because he crashed his after 2 weeks and I cannot buy him another one. He can't keep a job longer than a month because, well, he's lazy and calls in "sick" all the time or just doesn't show up - RIGHT NOW, he is supposed to be at work, but I have no idea where he is, and he's NOT at work. He went to a few therapy sessions 12 months ago. He's a manipulator but the therapist wasn't letting it work on her. He was there for medications. She told him he probably needed anxiety medications but that she wasn't going to give me a script unless he was going to stop smoking pot so she could figure out if it was helping. He is self-medicating with POT, tons of it. And apparently he gets Prozac from friends. My son failed out of community college the first semester because he just didn't feel like going. Ok, so that's about HIM. His attitude at home is horrible. Yes, there are moments of "wow he so pleasant" but then when he doesn't get what he wants, he's calling (or texting me) bad names, cussing up a storm and is just horrible. He left home a couple times but always ended up coming back when his friends didn't want him mooching anymore. I HATE the idea of my first born son being homeless, so I ALWAYS let him back. I then kicked him out once because he got violent and threatened to kill himself (manipulation, remember). I got police involved and suicide prevention and they called his bluff. So I kicked him out. Then, 2 months later, let him back in. He has stolen cash and gift cards. Got into my paypal accounts and bought stuff. (we're only talking about $200-$300 but still). He will lie, lie, lie about something I have physical proof off (ya know, caught red handed) and then he continues to lie calling me an idiot. This morning, as I sit here after calling in sick so I could deal with this, I am fed up. He stole money again yesterday (still denies it). He broke into my email accounts for some reason. Found a bottle of prozac pills in his room (40-50 pills). He didn't go to work. I have no idea where he is. I am lost. I have 3 other younger kids in the house and they are seeing all of this. Mind you, rarely, rarely will I fight with my son. I have been overall calm with him, and if it was going to be heated, I would have my wife take them somewhere. But, the kids aren't dump. They know there are issues. I don't want him here. I don't feel bad about not wanting him here. But, we live in MN and it's starting to get cold. He has NO money, NO car, maybe still has a job, but NOWHERE to go. How can a father, a God-fearing father, kick his son out to be homeless? Thanks for listening. [/QUOTE]
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