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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 692385" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi Lil and Jabber. I'm usually here's the line, you crossed it, pay the consequences... but...the first month's rent thing is growing on me. Because it's for you. $400 worth of "mental health" The plain truth for us was that it is so much easier to say no<em> after</em> they are out than it is to get them to go. (notice I did not say kick out-he has made the choice to drug and not work) In reality, it will certainly cost more than $400 with basics to start again. A contract, in writing, all sign, this is it, never living here again, no more. That line will have to be held more firmly in the future due to bending this time. Time to fly young man. It helped me to remember that it was disrespectful to our son to treat him as if he were incapable, unable to grow up and become a man. I wish so much that we had said "I know you'll figure this out" instead of so many times saying "Let me do it for you". Take it from someone who tried everything for 10 yrs. (really all his life) When what we were doing didn't work, we intensified the effort, only to have that not work. ...and now I feel we wasted 10 years and certainly didn't help him. We can't get that back. Save you. Ultimately, your son must save himself. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 692385, member: 20054"] Hi Lil and Jabber. I'm usually here's the line, you crossed it, pay the consequences... but...the first month's rent thing is growing on me. Because it's for you. $400 worth of "mental health" The plain truth for us was that it is so much easier to say no[I] after[/I] they are out than it is to get them to go. (notice I did not say kick out-he has made the choice to drug and not work) In reality, it will certainly cost more than $400 with basics to start again. A contract, in writing, all sign, this is it, never living here again, no more. That line will have to be held more firmly in the future due to bending this time. Time to fly young man. It helped me to remember that it was disrespectful to our son to treat him as if he were incapable, unable to grow up and become a man. I wish so much that we had said "I know you'll figure this out" instead of so many times saying "Let me do it for you". Take it from someone who tried everything for 10 yrs. (really all his life) When what we were doing didn't work, we intensified the effort, only to have that not work. ...and now I feel we wasted 10 years and certainly didn't help him. We can't get that back. Save you. Ultimately, your son must save himself. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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