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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 708854" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You are not alone by a long shot. Put "Estranged Stories" in your search engine. Off hand I do not know the exact address, but the Estranged Stories is a support group online for parents estranged from their adult children.</p><p></p><p>All their stories are yours. They dont know what they did. They gave thier kids everything. Often a significant other was the catalyst for the estrangement. Like you. Like me.</p><p></p><p>There is hope for every situation on that forum and lots of support. This is also a great site but most here have not gone through total no contact estrangement, especially of a child who seemed to be doing so well. That site has parents walking in your boots.</p><p></p><p>You are in the early stages; in the "I will do anything" stage. Maybe it will resolve and you wont need to go through any other stages. I hope, hope, hope it passes.</p><p></p><p>None on that site know why their adult children chose to isolate and wound them. They dont get answers. But they do get better.</p><p></p><p>It is very sad to me that this is your only child. When my son left us, i dont know what I would have done without my other kids. I feel for you. Cry all you need to. But do seek out counseling. That got me through it. It is too hard to do this alone. Dont try.</p><p></p><p>Check that support forum too. It will make you feel, if nothing else, not alone. You dont have to post. Just read. See how others in your boat reacted, what they tried to do, what happened, what they feel.</p><p></p><p>I think that if we checked it out. This probably happens more often with adopted kids, but it is certainly not limited to them. Not at all. However, all adopted kids wonder about those who created them whether or not they talk about it. And in our society people see adoption as second best. Friends ask us "Do you have any of your own?" Like our child isnt our own because we did not give birth. In school their friends ask them, "Why did your motjer give you up?" LIKE WE ARE NOT THE MOTHER!!! Our intense love is sometimes enough, sometimes not enough.This could be related to adoption or not...just sharing what I learned. I have three adopted kids and one bio kid and the one who walked away. But he was older when we adopted him...six.</p><p></p><p>I hope you find a little peace tonight. You did nothing wrong. This is your daughters issue, however, yes, it hurts you to the core and beyond. I am so sorry. I have walked in your shoes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 708854, member: 1550"] You are not alone by a long shot. Put "Estranged Stories" in your search engine. Off hand I do not know the exact address, but the Estranged Stories is a support group online for parents estranged from their adult children. All their stories are yours. They dont know what they did. They gave thier kids everything. Often a significant other was the catalyst for the estrangement. Like you. Like me. There is hope for every situation on that forum and lots of support. This is also a great site but most here have not gone through total no contact estrangement, especially of a child who seemed to be doing so well. That site has parents walking in your boots. You are in the early stages; in the "I will do anything" stage. Maybe it will resolve and you wont need to go through any other stages. I hope, hope, hope it passes. None on that site know why their adult children chose to isolate and wound them. They dont get answers. But they do get better. It is very sad to me that this is your only child. When my son left us, i dont know what I would have done without my other kids. I feel for you. Cry all you need to. But do seek out counseling. That got me through it. It is too hard to do this alone. Dont try. Check that support forum too. It will make you feel, if nothing else, not alone. You dont have to post. Just read. See how others in your boat reacted, what they tried to do, what happened, what they feel. I think that if we checked it out. This probably happens more often with adopted kids, but it is certainly not limited to them. Not at all. However, all adopted kids wonder about those who created them whether or not they talk about it. And in our society people see adoption as second best. Friends ask us "Do you have any of your own?" Like our child isnt our own because we did not give birth. In school their friends ask them, "Why did your motjer give you up?" LIKE WE ARE NOT THE MOTHER!!! Our intense love is sometimes enough, sometimes not enough.This could be related to adoption or not...just sharing what I learned. I have three adopted kids and one bio kid and the one who walked away. But he was older when we adopted him...six. I hope you find a little peace tonight. You did nothing wrong. This is your daughters issue, however, yes, it hurts you to the core and beyond. I am so sorry. I have walked in your shoes. [/QUOTE]
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