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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 258344" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry. Mental illness does make people behave in ways that are opposite the way they were raised and in ways that are not good for them. difficult child could be living this way from that, or from a drug problem (HIGHLY likely) or even from a personality disorder.</p><p></p><p>It is likely that it is some combination of the 3 things.</p><p></p><p>Sadly there is NOTHING you can do or say to stop her. If you drag her away she will just go right back. If you move with her she will find another area to live this way or find her way back to where she is.</p><p></p><p>You MUST stop taking these late night calls. Find a way to concentrate on your son and on your family nearby (sister, etc.)... Let difficult child live the way she is and reap the FULL consequences of that life. </p><p></p><p>If she comes around then call the cops because her warrant. If she is still hooking after she clears that up then you must make sure she isn't around your son. She would be considered a "bad influence" on him by the courts. If something ever came up in court then that could be held against you.</p><p></p><p>difficult child will ONLY stop living this way when SHE wants to. She must hit HER bottom. It sounds like seh is at the bottom in your mind. But not in her mind. Until she hits, you must be sure not to enable her.</p><p></p><p>PLEASE go to al anon or narc anon. They will understand, I promise. They will help you stay calm through this - it will not help if you get sick from stress, will it? </p><p></p><p>I am so very sorry. I know you want to run right down there and bring her to the court to get the warrant fixed and then home to be your little girl. But chances are she is mixed up with some people who will get VERY mean if she tries to break away from her life. They will be worse if you try to break her away. You MUST consider the safety of your son, your other family members and yourself. Wait until difficult child wants to change, whenever that happens. </p><p></p><p>Make sure difficult child knows that you love her and will help her when she decides to kick her habits. </p><p></p><p>Gentle, gentle hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 258344, member: 1233"] I am so sorry. Mental illness does make people behave in ways that are opposite the way they were raised and in ways that are not good for them. difficult child could be living this way from that, or from a drug problem (HIGHLY likely) or even from a personality disorder. It is likely that it is some combination of the 3 things. Sadly there is NOTHING you can do or say to stop her. If you drag her away she will just go right back. If you move with her she will find another area to live this way or find her way back to where she is. You MUST stop taking these late night calls. Find a way to concentrate on your son and on your family nearby (sister, etc.)... Let difficult child live the way she is and reap the FULL consequences of that life. If she comes around then call the cops because her warrant. If she is still hooking after she clears that up then you must make sure she isn't around your son. She would be considered a "bad influence" on him by the courts. If something ever came up in court then that could be held against you. difficult child will ONLY stop living this way when SHE wants to. She must hit HER bottom. It sounds like seh is at the bottom in your mind. But not in her mind. Until she hits, you must be sure not to enable her. PLEASE go to al anon or narc anon. They will understand, I promise. They will help you stay calm through this - it will not help if you get sick from stress, will it? I am so very sorry. I know you want to run right down there and bring her to the court to get the warrant fixed and then home to be your little girl. But chances are she is mixed up with some people who will get VERY mean if she tries to break away from her life. They will be worse if you try to break her away. You MUST consider the safety of your son, your other family members and yourself. Wait until difficult child wants to change, whenever that happens. Make sure difficult child knows that you love her and will help her when she decides to kick her habits. Gentle, gentle hugs. [/QUOTE]
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