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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 588702" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks you for the background information. That could cause a young child some attachment issues, which can lead to some strange and sometimes even cruel behaviors. I know that this happens when one parent is deployed, but it can, without any malice behind it, cause kids to feel insecure and unattached. Seperations in infancy and toddlerhood can also cause attachment problems. Not saying she has them, but it's a possibility. Attachment Disorder is a spectrum with some k ids just really acting out and some less obvious.</p><p></p><p>Because your daughter has atypical behaviors and sometimes even gets violent, and I mean this in the kindest way, I do think you need to get her tested. Not just therapy...therapists don't know a whole lot about childhood disorders...but neuropsychologist tested. She has a genetic history to follow her too and what doctors did not know in the generation of your elders, they could very well know now and be able to treat. My own mood disorder started as a child and I also had a lot of trouble making friends, although I desperately wanted to. Now your daughter is not the same as I was. I never got good grades and I also did not get into any trouble during school (more at home), but all kids are different, even those who tend to be wired differently. The best results occur when you find out as early as possible what is going on and how to help it. Many of us, especially those who have been around the block a few times, don't believe ODD is a real disorder. It basically means t he child is defiant, but it doesn't say WHY the child is defiant and it doesn't have any treatment. I think using scissors and other dangerous behaviors is beyond ODD anyway. Your son and dog should never have to be afraid of your daughter. That right there is a huge red flag. Cruelty to animals can be a marker for attachment disorder. Does she stay dry all night? Ever potty in inappropriate places? Ever mess with or show a fascination with fire? Does she show emotion or talk in a monotone? Make good eye contact with you and strangers too? Ever have any obsessive interests that consume her? Does she have good imaginative play skills? </p><p></p><p>I am just asking random questions because I'm not sure what is going on with her, only that something is. You can not go by what teachers say. They focus mainly on good grades. They are educators, not neuropsychs or psychiatrists. It is not their field to know what is or isn't going on with your child. You feel that something is wrong, and I believe strongly in something I call MOM GUT! Get her tested. The longer you put it off, the more problems you can encounter, especially in the pre-teen years and she is getting there.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and keep posting. Weekends can be slow. others will answer you eventually.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 588702, member: 1550"] Thanks you for the background information. That could cause a young child some attachment issues, which can lead to some strange and sometimes even cruel behaviors. I know that this happens when one parent is deployed, but it can, without any malice behind it, cause kids to feel insecure and unattached. Seperations in infancy and toddlerhood can also cause attachment problems. Not saying she has them, but it's a possibility. Attachment Disorder is a spectrum with some k ids just really acting out and some less obvious. Because your daughter has atypical behaviors and sometimes even gets violent, and I mean this in the kindest way, I do think you need to get her tested. Not just therapy...therapists don't know a whole lot about childhood disorders...but neuropsychologist tested. She has a genetic history to follow her too and what doctors did not know in the generation of your elders, they could very well know now and be able to treat. My own mood disorder started as a child and I also had a lot of trouble making friends, although I desperately wanted to. Now your daughter is not the same as I was. I never got good grades and I also did not get into any trouble during school (more at home), but all kids are different, even those who tend to be wired differently. The best results occur when you find out as early as possible what is going on and how to help it. Many of us, especially those who have been around the block a few times, don't believe ODD is a real disorder. It basically means t he child is defiant, but it doesn't say WHY the child is defiant and it doesn't have any treatment. I think using scissors and other dangerous behaviors is beyond ODD anyway. Your son and dog should never have to be afraid of your daughter. That right there is a huge red flag. Cruelty to animals can be a marker for attachment disorder. Does she stay dry all night? Ever potty in inappropriate places? Ever mess with or show a fascination with fire? Does she show emotion or talk in a monotone? Make good eye contact with you and strangers too? Ever have any obsessive interests that consume her? Does she have good imaginative play skills? I am just asking random questions because I'm not sure what is going on with her, only that something is. You can not go by what teachers say. They focus mainly on good grades. They are educators, not neuropsychs or psychiatrists. It is not their field to know what is or isn't going on with your child. You feel that something is wrong, and I believe strongly in something I call MOM GUT! Get her tested. The longer you put it off, the more problems you can encounter, especially in the pre-teen years and she is getting there. Hugs and keep posting. Weekends can be slow. others will answer you eventually. [/QUOTE]
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