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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 588745" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm going to show you a link to attachmen problems. Then I'll let others check in. I know something seems "off" but can't get a good read on your daughter. If indeed she had very chaotic early years, she certainly may have problems relating to attachment and that can cause violence. My guess is that if she doesn't get serious help now, she may start being violent to other children besides her brother and maybe to other animals too. I hope you do take her for an evaluation. Here's info from a link on attachment disorder. If your daughter has it, she doesn't have every symptom and it is mild, but s he still needs intervention. Other than attachment disorder, I think your daughter is a puzzle with some issues that are serious, and she should get that evaluation rather than you and hub just trying to do it yourself.</p><p></p><p>Here are many reasons why the development of this connection can be disrupted. Factors that may contribute to impaired attachment include: </p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Premature birth</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">In utero trauma such as exposure to drugs or alcohol</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Unwanted pregnancy</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Separation from birth mother</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Postpartum depression in mother</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Severe abuse and/or neglect in the first years of life</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Multiple caretakers</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Hospitalizations</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Unresolved pain</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Painful or invasive medical procedures</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Insensitive </li> </ul><p>These children have learned at a preverbal stage that the world is a scary and distrustful place. This lesson has taken place at a biochemical level in the brain.</p><p> </p><p> <strong>Identifying Attachment Disorder</strong></p><p> </p><p> <strong>The Child: </strong> </p><ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Superficially charming, acts cute to get what he/she wants.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Indiscriminately affectionate with unfamiliar adults.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Lacks genuine affection with primary caregivers (especially mother).</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Controlling, bossy, manipulative, defiant, argumentative, demanding, impulsive.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Preoccupation with fire, death, blood, or gore.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Cruelty to animals, destruction of property, aggression toward others or self.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Destructive, accident-prone.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Rages or has long temper tantrums, especially in response to adult authority.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Poor eye contact, except when lying.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Blames others for their problems.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Lacks self-control.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Lacks cause and effect thinking.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Lies, steals, shows no remorse, no conscience, defiant.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Hoards or sneaks food, strange eating habits.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Poor hygiene: wets or soils self.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Has difficulty maintaining friendships.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Underachiever.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Persistent nonsense questions and incessant chatter.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Grandiose sense of self lacks trust in others to care for him/her.</li> </ol><p>There is a range of attachment problems resulting in varying degrees of emotional disturbances in the child. Some of these children may have concurrent diagnoses such as Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Mood Disorders such as Depression or Bipolar Disorder, and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. Unfortunately, many children with Reactive Attachment Disorder are often misdiagnosed and receive inadequate therapy for years.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 588745, member: 1550"] I'm going to show you a link to attachmen problems. Then I'll let others check in. I know something seems "off" but can't get a good read on your daughter. If indeed she had very chaotic early years, she certainly may have problems relating to attachment and that can cause violence. My guess is that if she doesn't get serious help now, she may start being violent to other children besides her brother and maybe to other animals too. I hope you do take her for an evaluation. Here's info from a link on attachment disorder. If your daughter has it, she doesn't have every symptom and it is mild, but s he still needs intervention. Other than attachment disorder, I think your daughter is a puzzle with some issues that are serious, and she should get that evaluation rather than you and hub just trying to do it yourself. Here are many reasons why the development of this connection can be disrupted. Factors that may contribute to impaired attachment include: [LIST] [*]Premature birth [*]In utero trauma such as exposure to drugs or alcohol [*]Unwanted pregnancy [*]Separation from birth mother [*]Postpartum depression in mother [*]Severe abuse and/or neglect in the first years of life [*]Multiple caretakers [*]Hospitalizations [*]Unresolved pain [*]Painful or invasive medical procedures [*]Insensitive [/LIST] These children have learned at a preverbal stage that the world is a scary and distrustful place. This lesson has taken place at a biochemical level in the brain. [B]Identifying Attachment Disorder[/B] [B]The Child: [/B] [LIST=1] [*]Superficially charming, acts cute to get what he/she wants. [*]Indiscriminately affectionate with unfamiliar adults. [*]Lacks genuine affection with primary caregivers (especially mother). [*]Controlling, bossy, manipulative, defiant, argumentative, demanding, impulsive. [*]Preoccupation with fire, death, blood, or gore. [*]Cruelty to animals, destruction of property, aggression toward others or self. [*]Destructive, accident-prone. [*]Rages or has long temper tantrums, especially in response to adult authority. [*]Poor eye contact, except when lying. [*]Blames others for their problems. [*]Lacks self-control. [*]Lacks cause and effect thinking. [*]Lies, steals, shows no remorse, no conscience, defiant. [*]Hoards or sneaks food, strange eating habits. [*]Poor hygiene: wets or soils self. [*]Has difficulty maintaining friendships. [*]Underachiever. [*]Persistent nonsense questions and incessant chatter. [*]Grandiose sense of self lacks trust in others to care for him/her. [/LIST] There is a range of attachment problems resulting in varying degrees of emotional disturbances in the child. Some of these children may have concurrent diagnoses such as Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Mood Disorders such as Depression or Bipolar Disorder, and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. Unfortunately, many children with Reactive Attachment Disorder are often misdiagnosed and receive inadequate therapy for years. [/QUOTE]
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