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I Don't Know How To Talk To My Difficult Child...
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 715338" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>This is no way to live in your own home. I know how you feel, I've been there myself.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Please, never feel silly about posting and sharing that which concerns you.</p><p>I could understand him being upset if he was the one who had purchased the cheese dip. I'm guessing he did not. Regardless, his actions were very childish but also manipulative. He is trying to control you.</p><p>I think you handled it well.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Again, he's trying to control you. It's very typical of a difficult child to transfer the blame from themselves to someone else and mom and dad are always prime targets.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Once again, shifting the blame from himself to you. I've been down this road too many times with my son. I truly believe there are times when our difficult children want to engage us into a fight/debate. My son is a master at it. He gets to talking so fast and shifting the topic, one cannot keep up. I know he was counting on me to lose my cool which many times I did, then he would use that against me. I learned for myself not to engage because quite frankly, you cannot have a conversation with a difficult child who operates on wanting to argue and prove mom and dad wrong. I have found saying very little is best for me. My standard is "it's unfortunate you feel that way" or sometimes I just don't say anything.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Priceless, he's telling you that you are "controlling" and that's exactly what he's trying to do to you.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you are having to deal with your son's ugliness towards you. It's not an easy thing to deal with. It's a shame that he does not see that you are trying to help him.</p><p></p><p>Please be good to yourself. Don't buy into his hype and don't let him rob you of your peace. Your home should be your sanctuary not a place where you feel like you are walking on eggshells.</p><p></p><p>I think you are doing great by being firm and direct in telling him that you do not appreciate his disrespect.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you..................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 715338, member: 18516"] This is no way to live in your own home. I know how you feel, I've been there myself. Please, never feel silly about posting and sharing that which concerns you. I could understand him being upset if he was the one who had purchased the cheese dip. I'm guessing he did not. Regardless, his actions were very childish but also manipulative. He is trying to control you. I think you handled it well. Again, he's trying to control you. It's very typical of a difficult child to transfer the blame from themselves to someone else and mom and dad are always prime targets. Once again, shifting the blame from himself to you. I've been down this road too many times with my son. I truly believe there are times when our difficult children want to engage us into a fight/debate. My son is a master at it. He gets to talking so fast and shifting the topic, one cannot keep up. I know he was counting on me to lose my cool which many times I did, then he would use that against me. I learned for myself not to engage because quite frankly, you cannot have a conversation with a difficult child who operates on wanting to argue and prove mom and dad wrong. I have found saying very little is best for me. My standard is "it's unfortunate you feel that way" or sometimes I just don't say anything. Priceless, he's telling you that you are "controlling" and that's exactly what he's trying to do to you. I'm sorry you are having to deal with your son's ugliness towards you. It's not an easy thing to deal with. It's a shame that he does not see that you are trying to help him. Please be good to yourself. Don't buy into his hype and don't let him rob you of your peace. Your home should be your sanctuary not a place where you feel like you are walking on eggshells. I think you are doing great by being firm and direct in telling him that you do not appreciate his disrespect. ((HUGS)) to you.................. [/QUOTE]
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