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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 759252" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I am so sorry and so understand your plight.</p><p></p><p>Do either of your boys work? Sounds like you and I have things in common. My daughter is your son's age and a homeless married drug addict. She won't speak to us which is okay because she is so abusive.</p><p></p><p>NarAnon or even Al-Anon, which is not just for alcoholism, saved me. It saved my husband too. We had given everything to Kay and in the end she truly just abused us and did what she wanted. We gave her more than half our retirement. Now we let her and her husband do this alone. No money. Bank of Mom is closed. She can work even.if she won't. There is food assistance, soup kitchens and free food pantries for food. They eat. They are probably both on Medicaid. They may get some form of welfare or disability. They live in a broken down motorhome on the streets of probably Arizona. She can not live with us again. She is too dangerous and we have others to think about in our family.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I also got help dealing with Kay through private therapy. I would not be where I am without this help along with 12 Step. God also helps me. My church family.is amazing.</p><p></p><p>Do try NarAnon or AlAnon. Give it six times before deciding whether to keep going or not. Right now there are a lot of virtual meetings so you don't have to leave the house. I have my weekly meeting tonight. We have therapy on Fridays. Life is good again, but it took hard work to learn how to detach with love and put ourselves and our kinder loved ones first. That once sounded so selfish to me. But Kay took all my attention and I almost divorced and the other kids felt left out. Kay has to learn to grow up. Or not. I can not take care if her forever. It's not good for her or me.</p><p></p><p>Prayers and hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 759252, member: 23706"] I am so sorry and so understand your plight. Do either of your boys work? Sounds like you and I have things in common. My daughter is your son's age and a homeless married drug addict. She won't speak to us which is okay because she is so abusive. NarAnon or even Al-Anon, which is not just for alcoholism, saved me. It saved my husband too. We had given everything to Kay and in the end she truly just abused us and did what she wanted. We gave her more than half our retirement. Now we let her and her husband do this alone. No money. Bank of Mom is closed. She can work even.if she won't. There is food assistance, soup kitchens and free food pantries for food. They eat. They are probably both on Medicaid. They may get some form of welfare or disability. They live in a broken down motorhome on the streets of probably Arizona. She can not live with us again. She is too dangerous and we have others to think about in our family. My husband and I also got help dealing with Kay through private therapy. I would not be where I am without this help along with 12 Step. God also helps me. My church family.is amazing. Do try NarAnon or AlAnon. Give it six times before deciding whether to keep going or not. Right now there are a lot of virtual meetings so you don't have to leave the house. I have my weekly meeting tonight. We have therapy on Fridays. Life is good again, but it took hard work to learn how to detach with love and put ourselves and our kinder loved ones first. That once sounded so selfish to me. But Kay took all my attention and I almost divorced and the other kids felt left out. Kay has to learn to grow up. Or not. I can not take care if her forever. It's not good for her or me. Prayers and hugs. [/QUOTE]
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