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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766415" data-attributes="member: 18958">I don't believe I can let my child go. But I can accept the reality that doing for him doesn't help him. There are things my son can only do for himself, and I can't control whether or not he does them.My son is homeless in the cold. He is brain injured and he is psychotic. As we speak he is manipulating me so as to return to an apartment in a house I own. He just left 2 weeks ago, trashing it, and not fulfilling any of the commitments he made. I have just reviewed online the options&nbsp; he has for mental health intensive outpatient treatment, partial hospitalization, and housing--all of which he refuses to do.Your child has options too. I know he does. Our sons prefer us to help, because they can control us, abuse us, and they have learned that they call the shots, and we don't hold them accountable. This is why we become &quot;so very drained.&quot;I do not believe I have &quot;let my child go&quot; if I accept the reality that my &quot;help&quot; only hurts him and hurts me. There is real help. If my son won't accept it, that is not &quot;letting go.&quot;The real bottom is death. 'We on this forum have lost children to drugs and homelessness.. But the thing is, children die of overdoses and suicide in their parents homes.&nbsp; We have absolutely no way to protect our children or ourselves from life. My son in his psychosis and the personality he has developed through his lifestyle, is aggressive and he inivites altercations. What in the world can I do to stop him? Do you believe there is something I can do, that I am not doing? If you think there is, can you tell me, and I will do it.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766415, member: 18958"] I don't believe I can let my child go. But I can accept the reality that doing for him doesn't help him. There are things my son can only do for himself, and I can't control whether or not he does them. My son is homeless in the cold. He is brain injured and he is psychotic. As we speak he is manipulating me so as to return to an apartment in a house I own. He just left 2 weeks ago, trashing it, and not fulfilling any of the commitments he made. I have just reviewed online the options he has for mental health intensive outpatient treatment, partial hospitalization, and housing--all of which he refuses to do. Your child has options too. I know he does. Our sons prefer us to help, because they can control us, abuse us, and they have learned that they call the shots, and we don't hold them accountable. This is why we become "so very drained." I do not believe I have "let my child go" if I accept the reality that my "help" only hurts him and hurts me. There is real help. If my son won't accept it, that is not "letting go." The real bottom is death. 'We on this forum have lost children to drugs and homelessness.. But the thing is, children die of overdoses and suicide in their parents homes. We have absolutely no way to protect our children or ourselves from life. My son in his psychosis and the personality he has developed through his lifestyle, is aggressive and he inivites altercations. What in the world can I do to stop him? Do you believe there is something I can do, that I am not doing? If you think there is, can you tell me, and I will do it. [/QUOTE]

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