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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766444" data-attributes="member: 18958">This is the thing about brains. Brains can do workarounds. The intact parts of the brain can take over for the damaged parts. Of course there is therapy. Why do you listen to him? Please google rehabilitation for Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)'s.&nbsp; Yes, it is true that brain injuries can cause personality change, cognitive deficits, etc. but it is also true that with perseverance and motivation people can adapt.Well, here it is. When he is motivated, he perseveres.Okay. This is why you're here on this forum. To change yourself. First, is to take in the reality that you're worthwhile, and that only you have the right to decide how much or little you want to give, and when. He doesn't have to like your decisions. But he is not in charge of them. You are.&nbsp; We have to learn how to say no.&nbsp; Why not start by telling him--I need to think about it. If he disputes this, say, I will not discuss it. If he persists, end the call--and then refuse to send any money. He needs to be trained. And you need to train yourself.You calmly, adamantly say the words. I have no money to send. I have another (necessity, priority, etc.)&nbsp; End of story. And then tell him that. I have no more to say about the matter.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766444, member: 18958"] This is the thing about brains. Brains can do workarounds. The intact parts of the brain can take over for the damaged parts. Of course there is therapy. Why do you listen to him? Please google rehabilitation for Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)'s. Yes, it is true that brain injuries can cause personality change, cognitive deficits, etc. but it is also true that with perseverance and motivation people can adapt. Well, here it is. When he is motivated, he perseveres. Okay. This is why you're here on this forum. To change yourself. First, is to take in the reality that you're worthwhile, and that only you have the right to decide how much or little you want to give, and when. He doesn't have to like your decisions. But he is not in charge of them. You are. We have to learn how to say no. Why not start by telling him--I need to think about it. If he disputes this, say, I will not discuss it. If he persists, end the call--and then refuse to send any money. He needs to be trained. And you need to train yourself. You calmly, adamantly say the words. I have no money to send. I have another (necessity, priority, etc.) End of story. And then tell him that. I have no more to say about the matter. [/QUOTE]

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