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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 626567" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Look, it sounds, from what you said, which I believe, that you have done all you can. You were a good mom and had an ex who is refusing to be in his child's life. That is not your fault. It is hard to go it alone, but you did.</p><p></p><p>Your son sounds like so many of our difficult children (read our stories...haha). They, for whatever reason, are not motivated to do life the normal way and some are ok with homelessness, jail, living under bridges, panhandling, stealing, anything but fitting into normal society. Some of us are working on accepting their bizarre lifestyle choices simply because we have no control over them and can not make them want to be a typical person. There is little you can do if he is ok with jail and likes his tatoo. It is really not in your control.</p><p></p><p>I would try to slowly read about loving detachment and codependency and how to let go for your own sake and his. Liviing one day at a time, rather than catastrophizing about the future, is calming. </p><p></p><p>I say this to myself each day before I face the morning and I don't believe you need to be religious to get the message, although I think it is more soothing if you are. However, what it says is clearly the truth.</p><p></p><p>God grant me the SERENITY to accept th e things I can not change,</p><p>the COURAGE to change the things I can,</p><p>and the WISDOM to know the difference.</p><p></p><p>Whoever wrote that was brilliant and in my opinion very soothing and helpful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 626567, member: 1550"] Look, it sounds, from what you said, which I believe, that you have done all you can. You were a good mom and had an ex who is refusing to be in his child's life. That is not your fault. It is hard to go it alone, but you did. Your son sounds like so many of our difficult children (read our stories...haha). They, for whatever reason, are not motivated to do life the normal way and some are ok with homelessness, jail, living under bridges, panhandling, stealing, anything but fitting into normal society. Some of us are working on accepting their bizarre lifestyle choices simply because we have no control over them and can not make them want to be a typical person. There is little you can do if he is ok with jail and likes his tatoo. It is really not in your control. I would try to slowly read about loving detachment and codependency and how to let go for your own sake and his. Liviing one day at a time, rather than catastrophizing about the future, is calming. I say this to myself each day before I face the morning and I don't believe you need to be religious to get the message, although I think it is more soothing if you are. However, what it says is clearly the truth. God grant me the SERENITY to accept th e things I can not change, the COURAGE to change the things I can, and the WISDOM to know the difference. Whoever wrote that was brilliant and in my opinion very soothing and helpful. [/QUOTE]
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