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<blockquote data-quote="Jabberwockey" data-source="post: 687739" data-attributes="member: 18238"><p>While I understand this, he KNOWS that he will NEVER have this while living in our house. Same as I wouldn't have it living with my parents. To get autonomy he must get and maintain work so he can have his own place. He must acknowledge that everyone has rules for their home and even if you are only visiting for the afternoon you MUST give up some of your autonomy while there. I curse, but don't while at my mom and dads. While Lil and I were dating, we didn't spend the night at my parents because, even though we were in our 30's, because they don't approve of pre-marital sex. My sister in law wouldn't smoke in our house even when we allowed it. </p><p></p><p>As far as the pills go, whatever. That is his choice. If he wants to be miserable then so be it, just quit whining about it when we've given you an option that will at least help. </p><p></p><p>As far as autonomy goes, how much can you want something that you do almost nothing to gain.</p><p></p><p>Sorry if I'm sounding negative here but this whole situation is starting to wear thin. The deal was that he got to stay until the apartment was ready and it SHOULD have been ready over a week ago. He had a mini meltdown over a "friend" earlier. I used quotes on friend because he CONSTANTLY complains about this guy. This is J that lived with us briefly several years ago. When we ask why he would keep in touch with someone he apparently hates he responds with "He's the only one who will still talk to me. 'Better a bad friend than no friends." That is complete and utter bass ackwards crap but its what he believes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jabberwockey, post: 687739, member: 18238"] While I understand this, he KNOWS that he will NEVER have this while living in our house. Same as I wouldn't have it living with my parents. To get autonomy he must get and maintain work so he can have his own place. He must acknowledge that everyone has rules for their home and even if you are only visiting for the afternoon you MUST give up some of your autonomy while there. I curse, but don't while at my mom and dads. While Lil and I were dating, we didn't spend the night at my parents because, even though we were in our 30's, because they don't approve of pre-marital sex. My sister in law wouldn't smoke in our house even when we allowed it. As far as the pills go, whatever. That is his choice. If he wants to be miserable then so be it, just quit whining about it when we've given you an option that will at least help. As far as autonomy goes, how much can you want something that you do almost nothing to gain. Sorry if I'm sounding negative here but this whole situation is starting to wear thin. The deal was that he got to stay until the apartment was ready and it SHOULD have been ready over a week ago. He had a mini meltdown over a "friend" earlier. I used quotes on friend because he CONSTANTLY complains about this guy. This is J that lived with us briefly several years ago. When we ask why he would keep in touch with someone he apparently hates he responds with "He's the only one who will still talk to me. 'Better a bad friend than no friends." That is complete and utter bass ackwards crap but its what he believes. [/QUOTE]
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