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<blockquote data-quote="Jabberwockey" data-source="post: 688816" data-attributes="member: 18238"><p>Not really an issue. Unless he gets in a lucky shot, I can take him easily and he knows it. Even with only one arm right now, I wouldn't have much trouble putting him on his butt. Granted, I WOULD end up hurting him in the process. The thing is, he knows this. Yesterday wasnt about scare tactics. It was about loss of control, pure and simple.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Which is what has scared me since the day he walked into the door. It's always so much easier to fall back into old habits for all of us. Part of the reason its so hard to quit smoking, lose weight, get more exercise, etc..., etc..., etc...</p><p></p><p></p><p>Not sure if its a conscious thought but I agree with you. Unfortunately for him it wont happen. IF he were actually putting out a serious effort to change, IF he were actually making a serious attempt to find gainful employment, IF he were actually seeking psychological help then maybe we could work something out. Yesterday, if nothing else, was proof beyond a shadow of a doubt that he cannot stay here long term right now.</p><p></p><p>As for the possibility of him pressing charges this time or for another incident, I dont see that as an issue. First off, I have documentation about the shoulder injury. I couldnt have lived my life this long without actively seeking out confrontation with him. Besides, being in constant pain and unable to get sufficient sleep is documented to increase aggression. Secondly, as has been mentioned several times before, I've worked for corrections for 24 years and will ALWAYS react like that to a threat, even if it isnt meant to be a threat. Immediately after putting him in the headlock, it took me a full five seconds to realize that I had done it and to thing about how to release him without encouraging further confrontation. Finally, in almost 50 years of living I have NO recorded incidents of unprovoked violence. I simply have NO reason to fight him when I can simply put him out. Add on to this there are now three recorded incidents of me calling the police on him in an attempt to prevent violence.</p><p></p><p>Ok, gotta go for now. Shoulder isnt liking me trying to type.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jabberwockey, post: 688816, member: 18238"] Not really an issue. Unless he gets in a lucky shot, I can take him easily and he knows it. Even with only one arm right now, I wouldn't have much trouble putting him on his butt. Granted, I WOULD end up hurting him in the process. The thing is, he knows this. Yesterday wasnt about scare tactics. It was about loss of control, pure and simple. Which is what has scared me since the day he walked into the door. It's always so much easier to fall back into old habits for all of us. Part of the reason its so hard to quit smoking, lose weight, get more exercise, etc..., etc..., etc... Not sure if its a conscious thought but I agree with you. Unfortunately for him it wont happen. IF he were actually putting out a serious effort to change, IF he were actually making a serious attempt to find gainful employment, IF he were actually seeking psychological help then maybe we could work something out. Yesterday, if nothing else, was proof beyond a shadow of a doubt that he cannot stay here long term right now. As for the possibility of him pressing charges this time or for another incident, I dont see that as an issue. First off, I have documentation about the shoulder injury. I couldnt have lived my life this long without actively seeking out confrontation with him. Besides, being in constant pain and unable to get sufficient sleep is documented to increase aggression. Secondly, as has been mentioned several times before, I've worked for corrections for 24 years and will ALWAYS react like that to a threat, even if it isnt meant to be a threat. Immediately after putting him in the headlock, it took me a full five seconds to realize that I had done it and to thing about how to release him without encouraging further confrontation. Finally, in almost 50 years of living I have NO recorded incidents of unprovoked violence. I simply have NO reason to fight him when I can simply put him out. Add on to this there are now three recorded incidents of me calling the police on him in an attempt to prevent violence. Ok, gotta go for now. Shoulder isnt liking me trying to type. [/QUOTE]
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