Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
I had to say it...
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 688853" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>My son is a compulsive liar- which I believed he learned to do to survive on the "streets". Ok fine. I understand the need to lie to survive. But he lied because he was selfish, needed money for himself or drugs or his drug addicted girlfriend, because he owed for drugs, etc. He lied so I wouldn't worry. But, lying I believe is a form of "theft" in my opinion. I said to him one day, son, how exhausting it must be every day for you to come up with a lie and a story to get money, it has to be so exhausting to think of a lie, a story, tell it, repeat it, remember what you said and to whom, then when caught, to defend it death that "it's the truth".</p><p></p><p>Lying steals a persons joy</p><p>Lying steals their family and friends joy and others who help the person lying in good faith (taking their word only to find out they lied to you)</p><p>Lying steals from your employer</p><p>Lying steals a person's sanity when they have been lied to over and over again</p><p>Lying destroys the person telling the lies (think about how much energy goes into thinking of a story to lie about; then keeping and supporting that lie daily, weekly. Then having to continue to lie again and again with a new story, new twist. Exhausting.)</p><p>Lying destroys relationships</p><p>Lying is a betrayal of trust</p><p>Lying destroys a persons character and integrity</p><p>Lying is mentally and physically exhausting to the person telling the lie and to the people they lie to</p><p>Lying hits you financially (when they lie for reason they need money)</p><p></p><p>For me and my trials with son, the lying is the worst drain on me. Because I have to constantly think and analyze, what he said, is it true, is it feasible, who can verify, I have to try and hunt the facts to fill a need to "prove he was lying" again. You call their contacts, the places they said this or that to confirm or deny what my son said. Only to be so physically and mentally exhausted from one lie he told. He has ruined other people's lives from spreading lies. He has caused his own drama by lying.</p><p></p><p>So for me, personally, lying is one of the worst things you can do to a person, because it does destroy lives.</p><p></p><p>Lil- I pray your son learns the consequences of lying- yes, we all lie, but our ADULT children lie to manipulate, lie to survive at any cost, lie for selfish reason. For your son- I think he lied about his job because he simply hated his job and just can't suck it up. It's easier to just quit, give up, walk away, find something different. I worked in a restaurant in my teens, I hated it, but it was a job and in looking back was a stepping stone for my career today as far as communication skills.</p><p></p><p>Even little lies cause a domino effect on a person's life and others who are in their life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 688853, member: 19951"] My son is a compulsive liar- which I believed he learned to do to survive on the "streets". Ok fine. I understand the need to lie to survive. But he lied because he was selfish, needed money for himself or drugs or his drug addicted girlfriend, because he owed for drugs, etc. He lied so I wouldn't worry. But, lying I believe is a form of "theft" in my opinion. I said to him one day, son, how exhausting it must be every day for you to come up with a lie and a story to get money, it has to be so exhausting to think of a lie, a story, tell it, repeat it, remember what you said and to whom, then when caught, to defend it death that "it's the truth". Lying steals a persons joy Lying steals their family and friends joy and others who help the person lying in good faith (taking their word only to find out they lied to you) Lying steals from your employer Lying steals a person's sanity when they have been lied to over and over again Lying destroys the person telling the lies (think about how much energy goes into thinking of a story to lie about; then keeping and supporting that lie daily, weekly. Then having to continue to lie again and again with a new story, new twist. Exhausting.) Lying destroys relationships Lying is a betrayal of trust Lying destroys a persons character and integrity Lying is mentally and physically exhausting to the person telling the lie and to the people they lie to Lying hits you financially (when they lie for reason they need money) For me and my trials with son, the lying is the worst drain on me. Because I have to constantly think and analyze, what he said, is it true, is it feasible, who can verify, I have to try and hunt the facts to fill a need to "prove he was lying" again. You call their contacts, the places they said this or that to confirm or deny what my son said. Only to be so physically and mentally exhausted from one lie he told. He has ruined other people's lives from spreading lies. He has caused his own drama by lying. So for me, personally, lying is one of the worst things you can do to a person, because it does destroy lives. Lil- I pray your son learns the consequences of lying- yes, we all lie, but our ADULT children lie to manipulate, lie to survive at any cost, lie for selfish reason. For your son- I think he lied about his job because he simply hated his job and just can't suck it up. It's easier to just quit, give up, walk away, find something different. I worked in a restaurant in my teens, I hated it, but it was a job and in looking back was a stepping stone for my career today as far as communication skills. Even little lies cause a domino effect on a person's life and others who are in their life. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
I had to say it...
Top