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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 689093" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>You know what? So did mine. Until we stopped enabling. The house wasn't trashed, but their rooms were just awful.</p><p></p><p>Isn't that something.</p><p></p><p>Thank you, pasa. I get a little weak-kneed sometimes in my thinking. I swear my kids can sense it, too.</p><p></p><p>D H even gets weak-kneed in his thinking sometimes. I think what it is is that we forget how awful it was and judge ourselves from the perspective of today.</p><p></p><p>We should never do that.</p><p></p><p>It's a good thing I followed this thread.</p><p></p><p>Not to be mean about Lil and Jabber's son (I'm sorry, you guys), but the kids themselves make it impossible to know how to help them. We do our best, and find ourselves triangulated from our mates and spending huge gobs of unanticipated and unbudgeted money and our lives are put on hold and we can't even think straight.</p><p></p><p>D H and I do feel like that.</p><p></p><p>But still we get weak-kneed in our thinking, over time.</p><p></p><p>And we are left just shaking our heads, because we lived by our integrity and kindness and we never can figure out how we could have managed things differently and the guilt of it just kills.</p><p></p><p>But it wasn't us.</p><p></p><p>It really was the kids. And it really was true that we were enabling the very thing we were trying to help them with. So we had to change, because they could or would not.</p><p></p><p>We are actually amazing, to have been able to face and come through this.</p><p></p><p>No wonder I have complex PTSD and need to go to cyber Hawaii. </p><p></p><p>And ride a really fast horse, for those who have been following my weight loss program.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Thank you, pasa.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 689093, member: 17461"] You know what? So did mine. Until we stopped enabling. The house wasn't trashed, but their rooms were just awful. Isn't that something. Thank you, pasa. I get a little weak-kneed sometimes in my thinking. I swear my kids can sense it, too. D H even gets weak-kneed in his thinking sometimes. I think what it is is that we forget how awful it was and judge ourselves from the perspective of today. We should never do that. It's a good thing I followed this thread. Not to be mean about Lil and Jabber's son (I'm sorry, you guys), but the kids themselves make it impossible to know how to help them. We do our best, and find ourselves triangulated from our mates and spending huge gobs of unanticipated and unbudgeted money and our lives are put on hold and we can't even think straight. D H and I do feel like that. But still we get weak-kneed in our thinking, over time. And we are left just shaking our heads, because we lived by our integrity and kindness and we never can figure out how we could have managed things differently and the guilt of it just kills. But it wasn't us. It really was the kids. And it really was true that we were enabling the very thing we were trying to help them with. So we had to change, because they could or would not. We are actually amazing, to have been able to face and come through this. No wonder I have complex PTSD and need to go to cyber Hawaii. And ride a really fast horse, for those who have been following my weight loss program. :O) Thank you, pasa. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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