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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 689633" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>But mental illness, and I know about that, makes you different. And learning differences, which I know about too make you look at college educated siblings and parents and feel inadequate, even if your parents are kind about it. I grew up in sort of a high achieving family. Check, my niece just got accepted to medical school. The top one. I'm happy because I think I got a job as a hostess, although I'm worried that I will screw it up and get fired.</p><p></p><p>Life has taught me not to have high self esteem.</p><p></p><p>Lil, your son may look at you and Jabber in awe and rather than seeing you as an example could think," I'm such a loser. Look at them. Look at me. I'd rather not try than fail." I felt that way.</p><p></p><p>He may also think, "wow. I'm nothing like my high achieving dad. I'm a loser like my bio. Dad." Yes, he probably does think about this comparison.</p><p></p><p>I've felt different all my life. Having learning differences affected my ability to work, and I tried HARD. It didn't matter. Nobody pays you for trying hard. You get fired if you can't do it. And each hit affects your self esteem.</p><p>Your son has high achievers for parents. There is no way he feels good about himself, even though everyone here KNOWS you are both kind and encouraging to your son.</p><p>I always feel like the family dummy at least amongst bio. Relatives. It's my problem...Nobody calls me that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 689633, member: 1550"] But mental illness, and I know about that, makes you different. And learning differences, which I know about too make you look at college educated siblings and parents and feel inadequate, even if your parents are kind about it. I grew up in sort of a high achieving family. Check, my niece just got accepted to medical school. The top one. I'm happy because I think I got a job as a hostess, although I'm worried that I will screw it up and get fired. Life has taught me not to have high self esteem. Lil, your son may look at you and Jabber in awe and rather than seeing you as an example could think," I'm such a loser. Look at them. Look at me. I'd rather not try than fail." I felt that way. He may also think, "wow. I'm nothing like my high achieving dad. I'm a loser like my bio. Dad." Yes, he probably does think about this comparison. I've felt different all my life. Having learning differences affected my ability to work, and I tried HARD. It didn't matter. Nobody pays you for trying hard. You get fired if you can't do it. And each hit affects your self esteem. Your son has high achievers for parents. There is no way he feels good about himself, even though everyone here KNOWS you are both kind and encouraging to your son. I always feel like the family dummy at least amongst bio. Relatives. It's my problem...Nobody calls me that. [/QUOTE]
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