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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 713654" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My lack of resources to help (i couldnt write $5000 checks) HELPED my daughter. That was partly why she quit. As for rehab, there are rehabs for all income levels. Their fancy advertising has little to do with who quits while using them. It has to do with how motivated the user is. Many people spend thousands upon thousands on rehabs and their loved one still uses. My daughter quit on her own.</p><p> She would not go to a rehab.</p><p>Money cant make your son quit. His desire will. In fact you probably gave him $5000 worth of drugs.</p><p>You dont know if those addicts on the street had parents without resources. Addiction cuts across income lines. They could have just been tossed out without funds by desperate parents who realized the money doesnt help them. In fact it can hurt them.</p><p>Your daughter in my opinion needs more attention than her drug using sibling. Do you give her equal time? More time?</p><p>Your daughter deserves to live in peace and quiet. To save yourself and both kids, i feel this abusive man, your grown off spring, needs to get out soon and find his own way, bad or good. Forget abandoment issues. Adults get help for their issues and we all have them. He can get free counseling at a county mental health center or a preacher.</p><p></p><p>If you ever feel moved to "help" your son again, call the place you want to pay and give THEM the money, not your son. He will use any money for drigs. You are funding his drug habit with each dollar you put in his hands.</p><p></p><p>Also be aware that if you buy him anything nice it will probably get stolen. Not really, but our adult kids love to do this: They sell nice things for cash for drugs then call us wailing that their belongings were stolen. They then want (more drug) money or replacements possibly to sell again.</p><p></p><p>On the show Intervention and in books about addiction I have read that addicts garbage pick for stray receipts. When they find one with a meaty item, they go inside that store, look around for the item on the receipt then "return" it for money at the service desk. Crafty. This is common practice.</p><p></p><p>Drug addicts are not nice. They can be dangerous criminals. The drug takes over. They do not think about any person. Just drugs. Their empathy is zapped. You dont matter unless as a source of drug money.</p><p></p><p>Your success is for you to enjoy. You gave your son every chance to achieve too...he disgarded it hoping youd fund him.</p><p></p><p>Be extra good to your sweet daughter. She deserves it and needs you. Son sadly does not. He abuses snd takes advantage of you and others.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 713654, member: 1550"] My lack of resources to help (i couldnt write $5000 checks) HELPED my daughter. That was partly why she quit. As for rehab, there are rehabs for all income levels. Their fancy advertising has little to do with who quits while using them. It has to do with how motivated the user is. Many people spend thousands upon thousands on rehabs and their loved one still uses. My daughter quit on her own. She would not go to a rehab. Money cant make your son quit. His desire will. In fact you probably gave him $5000 worth of drugs. You dont know if those addicts on the street had parents without resources. Addiction cuts across income lines. They could have just been tossed out without funds by desperate parents who realized the money doesnt help them. In fact it can hurt them. Your daughter in my opinion needs more attention than her drug using sibling. Do you give her equal time? More time? Your daughter deserves to live in peace and quiet. To save yourself and both kids, i feel this abusive man, your grown off spring, needs to get out soon and find his own way, bad or good. Forget abandoment issues. Adults get help for their issues and we all have them. He can get free counseling at a county mental health center or a preacher. If you ever feel moved to "help" your son again, call the place you want to pay and give THEM the money, not your son. He will use any money for drigs. You are funding his drug habit with each dollar you put in his hands. Also be aware that if you buy him anything nice it will probably get stolen. Not really, but our adult kids love to do this: They sell nice things for cash for drugs then call us wailing that their belongings were stolen. They then want (more drug) money or replacements possibly to sell again. On the show Intervention and in books about addiction I have read that addicts garbage pick for stray receipts. When they find one with a meaty item, they go inside that store, look around for the item on the receipt then "return" it for money at the service desk. Crafty. This is common practice. Drug addicts are not nice. They can be dangerous criminals. The drug takes over. They do not think about any person. Just drugs. Their empathy is zapped. You dont matter unless as a source of drug money. Your success is for you to enjoy. You gave your son every chance to achieve too...he disgarded it hoping youd fund him. Be extra good to your sweet daughter. She deserves it and needs you. Son sadly does not. He abuses snd takes advantage of you and others. [/QUOTE]
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