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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 377866" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Peg, </p><p> </p><p>I can literally feel the hurt in your Mommy heart. It's like (for me anyway) I become two different Moms [i think]. The one Mom that wants to be like not a Mom at all, but someone who doesn't know this kid at all, and then there is the Mom that IS me, that does know this kid or knows the kid that I want him to be. See that's the Mom that the other Mom want's to just kick butt up to her shoulders. Why? Because it's not him. Hardly ever. If it IS? It's the manipulative kid that CAN be nice for () much time to get something and then WHAM!!!!!!!!O!!! Back to the other kid. The one that is mean, selfish, righteous, know-it-all, if I had not given birth to him? I'd probably rent a pavement roller and run him over, kind of person - the kind that if he wasn't my son? I would NEVER IN A BAZILLION years allow someone to treat me like that again (post therapy thank you Dr. H. and 15 years of dragging myself 3x a week when I did.not.want.to.go.to.therapy) because there is no way on this EARTH today that I would allow someone to treat me again like my kid treated me - nooooooo maam. I'd twist his lips off, and consequences would have been so tough love - living in a cardboard box at the age of 8 would have been a way of life for his hiney. BEHIND A RAILROAD shack with hobos, eating out of a dumpster, wearing the same Salvation Army clothes for the 3rd week in a row......</p><p>Or something mean Mothered like that - </p><p> </p><p>Ugh - yeah, I mean NOW? Yeah Now I could run a mission of kids like mine was. NOW? NOW I don't get sick to my stomach when he calls me with the "stories" of DREAD AND DOOM - and the odd thing is?? He KNOWS it doesn't get to me like it used to. I swear to you it will always tug at your heart. But after they make ENOUGH of their own decisions and YOU get enough therapy and detachment under YOUR belt? Eventually you are able to separate which Mom parents WHICH kid and it makes a WHOLE lot more sense to you who is making WHOSE decisions for WHOM. Then it's like you have a lightbulb moment for yourself - at first dim, then brighter and eventually you keep switching up for a higher wattage. Currently I believe I'm on about a 75 watter. (Trading that in for one of those curley que bulbs - you know energy effecient....conserve my own energy for ME kinda thing! ) ahem. When Dude was at home? I was about a nightlight watter......and burnt out at that. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs to you OH BEACON OF THE LIGHT HOUSE!!!!!!! BURN FOREVER MORE ON THE SHORES OF......(checking to see where you live) JOISEY! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/laugh.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":laugh:" title="laugh :laugh:" data-shortname=":laugh:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 377866, member: 4964"] Peg, I can literally feel the hurt in your Mommy heart. It's like (for me anyway) I become two different Moms [i think]. The one Mom that wants to be like not a Mom at all, but someone who doesn't know this kid at all, and then there is the Mom that IS me, that does know this kid or knows the kid that I want him to be. See that's the Mom that the other Mom want's to just kick butt up to her shoulders. Why? Because it's not him. Hardly ever. If it IS? It's the manipulative kid that CAN be nice for () much time to get something and then WHAM!!!!!!!!O!!! Back to the other kid. The one that is mean, selfish, righteous, know-it-all, if I had not given birth to him? I'd probably rent a pavement roller and run him over, kind of person - the kind that if he wasn't my son? I would NEVER IN A BAZILLION years allow someone to treat me like that again (post therapy thank you Dr. H. and 15 years of dragging myself 3x a week when I did.not.want.to.go.to.therapy) because there is no way on this EARTH today that I would allow someone to treat me again like my kid treated me - nooooooo maam. I'd twist his lips off, and consequences would have been so tough love - living in a cardboard box at the age of 8 would have been a way of life for his hiney. BEHIND A RAILROAD shack with hobos, eating out of a dumpster, wearing the same Salvation Army clothes for the 3rd week in a row...... Or something mean Mothered like that - Ugh - yeah, I mean NOW? Yeah Now I could run a mission of kids like mine was. NOW? NOW I don't get sick to my stomach when he calls me with the "stories" of DREAD AND DOOM - and the odd thing is?? He KNOWS it doesn't get to me like it used to. I swear to you it will always tug at your heart. But after they make ENOUGH of their own decisions and YOU get enough therapy and detachment under YOUR belt? Eventually you are able to separate which Mom parents WHICH kid and it makes a WHOLE lot more sense to you who is making WHOSE decisions for WHOM. Then it's like you have a lightbulb moment for yourself - at first dim, then brighter and eventually you keep switching up for a higher wattage. Currently I believe I'm on about a 75 watter. (Trading that in for one of those curley que bulbs - you know energy effecient....conserve my own energy for ME kinda thing! ) ahem. When Dude was at home? I was about a nightlight watter......and burnt out at that. Hugs to you OH BEACON OF THE LIGHT HOUSE!!!!!!! BURN FOREVER MORE ON THE SHORES OF......(checking to see where you live) JOISEY! :funny: [/QUOTE]
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