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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 764215" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Dragonfly, </p><p>I hope you are having a good day today.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for your kindness. Having two wayward daughters has been a challenge, for sure. I’ve spent too many years hurting over their choices, too many years. I have three well children who give me great joy and that helps tremendously to ease the pain. Being siblings, they are not so easily manipulated and keep focus on their own lives and children. They are examples for me, moving forward towards living in healthier ways.</p><p></p><p>I think we have a way of synchronizing our lives with our addicted loved ones, when we are enmeshed with their choices. We don’t even realize what is happening to us, as we slowly abandon ourselves in the drama and chaos. Figuring out how to love and let go is no easy task. </p><p></p><p>I am glad that you are seeing this reality. It’s hard for parents, we have been programmed from the start to deny ourselves in order to care for our children. Our addicted adult children will use that against us, time and again. Realizing that is a big step. Developing coping skills and strategies to lift ourselves up is a learning process. You can do this! One day at a time. I truly believe that is the greatest gift we can give our children, modeling self love, rediscovering healthy habits and working at that daily.</p><p></p><p>That is my hope as well, maybe one day. Your name Dragonfly is so spot on. Many cultures see Dragonflys’ as spiritual symbols of renewal after difficulty, transformation, growth and hope. The journey into your own becoming will not be easy, but you are so worth it!</p><p>Hang in there mama</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>New Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 764215, member: 19522"] Hi Dragonfly, I hope you are having a good day today. Thank you for your kindness. Having two wayward daughters has been a challenge, for sure. I’ve spent too many years hurting over their choices, too many years. I have three well children who give me great joy and that helps tremendously to ease the pain. Being siblings, they are not so easily manipulated and keep focus on their own lives and children. They are examples for me, moving forward towards living in healthier ways. I think we have a way of synchronizing our lives with our addicted loved ones, when we are enmeshed with their choices. We don’t even realize what is happening to us, as we slowly abandon ourselves in the drama and chaos. Figuring out how to love and let go is no easy task. I am glad that you are seeing this reality. It’s hard for parents, we have been programmed from the start to deny ourselves in order to care for our children. Our addicted adult children will use that against us, time and again. Realizing that is a big step. Developing coping skills and strategies to lift ourselves up is a learning process. You can do this! One day at a time. I truly believe that is the greatest gift we can give our children, modeling self love, rediscovering healthy habits and working at that daily. That is my hope as well, maybe one day. Your name Dragonfly is so spot on. Many cultures see Dragonflys’ as spiritual symbols of renewal after difficulty, transformation, growth and hope. The journey into your own becoming will not be easy, but you are so worth it! Hang in there mama (((Hugs))) New Leaf [/QUOTE]
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