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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 714917" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am sorry you are hurting. Do not invite girlfriend in your house...i wouldnt, at least. They are probably encouraging one another to take drugs...she is not helping him.</p><p></p><p>At your sons age it is up to him to work hard to quit. He will when he is sick of his lifestyle. Maybe he needs to know you are not going to help at all until he is sober. That motivated my daughter who quit meth and cocaine twelve years ago.</p><p></p><p>Personally, I believe free rent (more money for drugs) and comfort dont help their motivation. Have you tried Al Anon? Therapy just for you? If you want your son to change (which is hard for an addict) should you not also do the very hard work it takes to change?</p><p></p><p>Changing yourself to caring about you first and detaching from your sons drama will definitely change the way your son sees things. Right now you are his go-to and rescuer. What if he didnt have an out? He would have to change, one way or the other.</p><p></p><p>"Insanity is doing the same thing ovet and over again and expecting a different result."</p><p></p><p>Hugs and light.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 714917, member: 1550"] I am sorry you are hurting. Do not invite girlfriend in your house...i wouldnt, at least. They are probably encouraging one another to take drugs...she is not helping him. At your sons age it is up to him to work hard to quit. He will when he is sick of his lifestyle. Maybe he needs to know you are not going to help at all until he is sober. That motivated my daughter who quit meth and cocaine twelve years ago. Personally, I believe free rent (more money for drugs) and comfort dont help their motivation. Have you tried Al Anon? Therapy just for you? If you want your son to change (which is hard for an addict) should you not also do the very hard work it takes to change? Changing yourself to caring about you first and detaching from your sons drama will definitely change the way your son sees things. Right now you are his go-to and rescuer. What if he didnt have an out? He would have to change, one way or the other. "Insanity is doing the same thing ovet and over again and expecting a different result." Hugs and light. [/QUOTE]
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