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<blockquote data-quote="neajle" data-source="post: 6222" data-attributes="member: 1318"><p>Grace, my heart goes out to you. I'm not usually on this site, but every once in a while. I keep hoping that things have changed and that these difficult child's are better.</p><p></p><p>Like you've said; I also liked cooking for my son, doing his laundry, etc. I too was told that I babied him too much. That I was too overprotective of him. Actually I did the same for all my children. I guess I love them too much. </p><p></p><p>You are right, what you do is your business and nobody else's. There are no two people alike, no two difficult child's alike. But drugs tend to do the same things to them and to their families - THEY DESTROY IT. I know how you feel about putting your child out on the street. Worrying if you'll get a call. I did all of that. My minister told me that I had to "LET GO AND LET GOD". That is a hard thing for us to do.</p><p></p><p>Some of the others are right, the child can die at home or away from home or not at all. I have two brothers that were addicts, they destroyed my family, they lived to be quite old. They stole from my mother, they threatened my mother, they borrowed from my mother etc. etc. After my mother died, they started coming to me for money. I told them NO. That I would not take her place. I had to let go of my own family members, that is how I survived my young adulthood. I swore my own children would never live like that. Then I found my own self, being just like my mother was. My son stealing from me etc. When it got bad enough, I had to let go. I knew that if he died that I loved him and that I knew that he knew this because I told him that every time I saw him. But, I refused to be a part of this, and I felt from what I had read and from what my minister told me that if I allowed him to live in my home it was the same as saying it was alright.</p><p></p><p>Drugs are horrible! That is the simple fact. But, you can only do what you feel comfortable doing. So follow what you feel is right. It is a really hard choice to make, but some times if we love somebody we have to let them go, especially when drugs are involved.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs for you Grace and for your son. I hope and pray that he is trying to change. I will keep you and your son in my prayers.</p><p></p><p>You know what is strange. I went to church when I was a child, but then kind of just dropped out. I felt that if you believe, you don't need to go to church. When my son started this mess in his life, that is when I turned back to God. I needed something, somebody to help me. That was the only thing that has given me hope through all of this.</p><p></p><p>jean</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neajle, post: 6222, member: 1318"] Grace, my heart goes out to you. I'm not usually on this site, but every once in a while. I keep hoping that things have changed and that these difficult child's are better. Like you've said; I also liked cooking for my son, doing his laundry, etc. I too was told that I babied him too much. That I was too overprotective of him. Actually I did the same for all my children. I guess I love them too much. You are right, what you do is your business and nobody else's. There are no two people alike, no two difficult child's alike. But drugs tend to do the same things to them and to their families - THEY DESTROY IT. I know how you feel about putting your child out on the street. Worrying if you'll get a call. I did all of that. My minister told me that I had to "LET GO AND LET GOD". That is a hard thing for us to do. Some of the others are right, the child can die at home or away from home or not at all. I have two brothers that were addicts, they destroyed my family, they lived to be quite old. They stole from my mother, they threatened my mother, they borrowed from my mother etc. etc. After my mother died, they started coming to me for money. I told them NO. That I would not take her place. I had to let go of my own family members, that is how I survived my young adulthood. I swore my own children would never live like that. Then I found my own self, being just like my mother was. My son stealing from me etc. When it got bad enough, I had to let go. I knew that if he died that I loved him and that I knew that he knew this because I told him that every time I saw him. But, I refused to be a part of this, and I felt from what I had read and from what my minister told me that if I allowed him to live in my home it was the same as saying it was alright. Drugs are horrible! That is the simple fact. But, you can only do what you feel comfortable doing. So follow what you feel is right. It is a really hard choice to make, but some times if we love somebody we have to let them go, especially when drugs are involved. Many hugs for you Grace and for your son. I hope and pray that he is trying to change. I will keep you and your son in my prayers. You know what is strange. I went to church when I was a child, but then kind of just dropped out. I felt that if you believe, you don't need to go to church. When my son started this mess in his life, that is when I turned back to God. I needed something, somebody to help me. That was the only thing that has given me hope through all of this. jean [/QUOTE]
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