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I just threw out my 21 year old addict son
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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 703241" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>I suggest leaving his belongings out for him. It's a symbolic gesture more than anything else. It is an assertion that he no longer has ANY business in your home. Not even for a couple of minutes to take his stuff. It projects your resolve on the matter. The most important thing you need to be right now is consistent, and firm. Whatever relationship you have with him needs to be on YOUR terms. You've compromised more than enough, and it didn't help anything. He is the one making the piss poor decisions, not you. Show him that playing the victim is no longer going to work, and that he needs to man up and accept responsibility for his choices. He's no longer a child. You aren't going to be around forever to rescue him. He has to learn how to rescue himself. You should be supportive only if/when he starts making positive changes. Support the good he does, and not the bad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 703241, member: 20267"] I suggest leaving his belongings out for him. It's a symbolic gesture more than anything else. It is an assertion that he no longer has ANY business in your home. Not even for a couple of minutes to take his stuff. It projects your resolve on the matter. The most important thing you need to be right now is consistent, and firm. Whatever relationship you have with him needs to be on YOUR terms. You've compromised more than enough, and it didn't help anything. He is the one making the piss poor decisions, not you. Show him that playing the victim is no longer going to work, and that he needs to man up and accept responsibility for his choices. He's no longer a child. You aren't going to be around forever to rescue him. He has to learn how to rescue himself. You should be supportive only if/when he starts making positive changes. Support the good he does, and not the bad. [/QUOTE]
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