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I Love a Narcissist. Now What?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 666786" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This almost made me cry with emotional flashback intensity. She could shame me like no other.</p><p></p><p>Why did she want to shame me? Why did any of them want to shame us or make us feel fat or ugly or stupid or bad or inept or whatever our particular mother did? As a mother myself, I can not imagine it. And not all of my kids are little angels who did whatever I asked and kissed my feet. And I know yours were not either. Is it harder to hold in the nasty comments when a child is near adult or adult or even a small child and acting badly? YES! But do we HAVE to shame them? We are still the older one. We still love them. We do not call them names. We do not shame them. We do not give them a childhood that leads to PTSD. </p><p></p><p>Why did our mothers do it? How could they have stood doing it? I couldn't talk to ANY child, even one not my own, the way my mother talked to me at times. </p><p></p><p>Why could our mothers do this? Cedar, I'm with you now. Where's the win? What did they get out of it, even if their own mothers said nasty things to them? Why didn't they think, "I'll never do that to my child" and not do it?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 666786, member: 1550"] This almost made me cry with emotional flashback intensity. She could shame me like no other. Why did she want to shame me? Why did any of them want to shame us or make us feel fat or ugly or stupid or bad or inept or whatever our particular mother did? As a mother myself, I can not imagine it. And not all of my kids are little angels who did whatever I asked and kissed my feet. And I know yours were not either. Is it harder to hold in the nasty comments when a child is near adult or adult or even a small child and acting badly? YES! But do we HAVE to shame them? We are still the older one. We still love them. We do not call them names. We do not shame them. We do not give them a childhood that leads to PTSD. Why did our mothers do it? How could they have stood doing it? I couldn't talk to ANY child, even one not my own, the way my mother talked to me at times. Why could our mothers do this? Cedar, I'm with you now. Where's the win? What did they get out of it, even if their own mothers said nasty things to them? Why didn't they think, "I'll never do that to my child" and not do it? [/QUOTE]
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