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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 677654" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I was reading about Filipino culture which has a concept called Kapwa which I understand as "shared being". From the time you are born you are taught that your happiness depends upon the group, belonging, helping, contributing, and self-esteem is based on that. Fililipinos are among, if not the happiest people in the world, except for traditional, tribal cultures, perhaps.</p><p></p><p>Our culture in the States is like one hundred percent different, where we are encouraged to base our self-esteem and happiness on ourselves...our pleasures, our achievements, our possessions.</p><p></p><p>How do I backtrack now? I just heard about the concept. I am a senior citizen.</p><p></p><p>My partner M comes from the Mexican culture, where there is a similar operating principle. He believes that I should help my son, to the extent of living with him, only if he adheres to our rules and is working toward goals that would make him self-sufficient. Neither of these, he is doing.</p><p></p><p>It seems very clear to me now, that I did the right thing. Only 24 hours later I feel my peace of mind and productivity returning. I am feeling secure in my home. I do not know how I will deal next time with this challenge. Perhaps both of us, my son and I will learn how to do this better.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 677654, member: 18958"] I was reading about Filipino culture which has a concept called Kapwa which I understand as "shared being". From the time you are born you are taught that your happiness depends upon the group, belonging, helping, contributing, and self-esteem is based on that. Fililipinos are among, if not the happiest people in the world, except for traditional, tribal cultures, perhaps. Our culture in the States is like one hundred percent different, where we are encouraged to base our self-esteem and happiness on ourselves...our pleasures, our achievements, our possessions. How do I backtrack now? I just heard about the concept. I am a senior citizen. My partner M comes from the Mexican culture, where there is a similar operating principle. He believes that I should help my son, to the extent of living with him, only if he adheres to our rules and is working toward goals that would make him self-sufficient. Neither of these, he is doing. It seems very clear to me now, that I did the right thing. Only 24 hours later I feel my peace of mind and productivity returning. I am feeling secure in my home. I do not know how I will deal next time with this challenge. Perhaps both of us, my son and I will learn how to do this better. COPA [/QUOTE]
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