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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 486967" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Do NOT go with a sleep number bed if you are overweight. All it takes to pop it is to slip and land on it heavier than normal and it is GONE. Now my parents have had one for a couple of years and love it, but neither of them is severely overweight. We have had friends from church and from our neighborhood who have had the sleep number beds die fast because someone fell on them, not from a great height but just from slipping while trying to do something (no, not THAT something . . . lol). </p><p></p><p>Push for a bed from your pain doctor. It woudl make a HUGE difference to your back, esp with the escalation in pain that happened recently. If you feel you really need something soon, go for a cheap airbed and put two twin ones up. As for the 1yo mattress, call the co that made it. Usually the manufacturer is the one issuing the warranty, not the store, so go to them. Take all those upset, hurt, mad feelings and channel them into a productively assertive complaint by email or letter to the company. Let them know that you specifically asked for a bed that would not break in the next few years, that you told the salesperson what you needed and how you would use the bed, and he swore that the POS mattress you now have would do what you want for decades to come. Now you expect them to do what was promised - to give you a bed that would stand up to your use for decades to come. You don't CARE if what you need is more expensive than the set you have - you were PROMISED that the one you got would do what you needed and you paid for a bed that met that promise - NOT for the substandard bed you have. </p><p></p><p>Be SURE to tell them that hundreds of your best friends and sisters are watching them like they have never been watched before and we are eagerly waiting to hear what they have done and to tell everyone that we know exactly how wonderfully this company treated you, or exactly how horribly you were treated and how they took advantage of a lady with disabilites and then left her in worse shape that she was in before she got the bed.</p><p></p><p>Make triple super duper sure that they KNOW that you have sisters/best friends spread out all over the WORLD and we are very prepared to tell everyone we know exactly how you were treated. This will either be an awesome gift to them - the opportunity to make things right and have a LOT of women who will rememberhow wonderful they are and will look to them when we want a new mattress - or a HUGE problem for them - they will incite the ire of the very vocal women who love you and who HATE the idea that some slick salesjerk took advantage of you and of your disabled body to make a fast buck. And that fast buck in the salesjerk's commissioned pocket will cost them the price of that mattress many times over because not only will WE (your sisters and bffs) not purchase their fall apart in under a year POJunk mattress, we will make sure that our relatives and friends are warned about them as well. </p><p></p><p>If nothing else, the mere thought of all of us not talking about them should motivate them.</p><p></p><p>As for Tony, the others have given you good ideas. I hate to suggest this, but could he be in very early stages of alzheimers or something like that, or having mental changes due to hardening of the arteries? The paranoia about Cory stealing everything and being responsible for everything that he can't find, plus his anger and outburst at you could be signs of either of those. I have relatives who have shown similar behaviors as those problems occurred. </p><p></p><p>One practical solution to help you and Tony both is to go and get some 2 part carbonless order pads. When he wants you to do something, or you want to tell him something or want him to do something, you write it down and give one copy to the other and keep one copy with you in your pad. Then when there is a problem, you can say "Tony, here is wehre you wrote down what you asked me to do. This is what I did - exactly what you wrote down. I am not psychic and cannot read your mind. If you don't tell me you want me to do soemthing, then you can't yell when I don't do what you want. "</p><p></p><p>Catch him at a calm time to discuss how it will work. IT will take some getting used to. Keep those pads with you at all times and write stuff down. You will then be able to see if you are missing things that he has asked, or if there is some o ther communication problem. You can buy the pads at staples or even at walmart in the office supply stuff. They have gone a LONG way toward getting my husband to back off on acting like he never agreed to do something that I asked for him to do. Or the other way around. It also has helped show my kids that I keep track of what I have assigned as their chores and their deadlines. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry things are so tough.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 486967, member: 1233"] Do NOT go with a sleep number bed if you are overweight. All it takes to pop it is to slip and land on it heavier than normal and it is GONE. Now my parents have had one for a couple of years and love it, but neither of them is severely overweight. We have had friends from church and from our neighborhood who have had the sleep number beds die fast because someone fell on them, not from a great height but just from slipping while trying to do something (no, not THAT something . . . lol). Push for a bed from your pain doctor. It woudl make a HUGE difference to your back, esp with the escalation in pain that happened recently. If you feel you really need something soon, go for a cheap airbed and put two twin ones up. As for the 1yo mattress, call the co that made it. Usually the manufacturer is the one issuing the warranty, not the store, so go to them. Take all those upset, hurt, mad feelings and channel them into a productively assertive complaint by email or letter to the company. Let them know that you specifically asked for a bed that would not break in the next few years, that you told the salesperson what you needed and how you would use the bed, and he swore that the POS mattress you now have would do what you want for decades to come. Now you expect them to do what was promised - to give you a bed that would stand up to your use for decades to come. You don't CARE if what you need is more expensive than the set you have - you were PROMISED that the one you got would do what you needed and you paid for a bed that met that promise - NOT for the substandard bed you have. Be SURE to tell them that hundreds of your best friends and sisters are watching them like they have never been watched before and we are eagerly waiting to hear what they have done and to tell everyone that we know exactly how wonderfully this company treated you, or exactly how horribly you were treated and how they took advantage of a lady with disabilites and then left her in worse shape that she was in before she got the bed. Make triple super duper sure that they KNOW that you have sisters/best friends spread out all over the WORLD and we are very prepared to tell everyone we know exactly how you were treated. This will either be an awesome gift to them - the opportunity to make things right and have a LOT of women who will rememberhow wonderful they are and will look to them when we want a new mattress - or a HUGE problem for them - they will incite the ire of the very vocal women who love you and who HATE the idea that some slick salesjerk took advantage of you and of your disabled body to make a fast buck. And that fast buck in the salesjerk's commissioned pocket will cost them the price of that mattress many times over because not only will WE (your sisters and bffs) not purchase their fall apart in under a year POJunk mattress, we will make sure that our relatives and friends are warned about them as well. If nothing else, the mere thought of all of us not talking about them should motivate them. As for Tony, the others have given you good ideas. I hate to suggest this, but could he be in very early stages of alzheimers or something like that, or having mental changes due to hardening of the arteries? The paranoia about Cory stealing everything and being responsible for everything that he can't find, plus his anger and outburst at you could be signs of either of those. I have relatives who have shown similar behaviors as those problems occurred. One practical solution to help you and Tony both is to go and get some 2 part carbonless order pads. When he wants you to do something, or you want to tell him something or want him to do something, you write it down and give one copy to the other and keep one copy with you in your pad. Then when there is a problem, you can say "Tony, here is wehre you wrote down what you asked me to do. This is what I did - exactly what you wrote down. I am not psychic and cannot read your mind. If you don't tell me you want me to do soemthing, then you can't yell when I don't do what you want. " Catch him at a calm time to discuss how it will work. IT will take some getting used to. Keep those pads with you at all times and write stuff down. You will then be able to see if you are missing things that he has asked, or if there is some o ther communication problem. You can buy the pads at staples or even at walmart in the office supply stuff. They have gone a LONG way toward getting my husband to back off on acting like he never agreed to do something that I asked for him to do. Or the other way around. It also has helped show my kids that I keep track of what I have assigned as their chores and their deadlines. I am sorry things are so tough. [/QUOTE]
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