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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 742144" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Thank you very much Caretoomuch.</p><p></p><p>I am agreeing with you. The hurdle I cannot get behind is his taking care of the place. He is a pig. M will go crazy and come to me with constant complaint. M is the one who has worked hard to fix the place up. It is newly painted, new kitchen, virtually new bath, new floors, new wiring, etc. It is not too much to expect that the place not be destroyed. When my son moved in last time, the tub was clean. When he left it took somebody 4 hours to clean it.</p><p></p><p>I had proposed to M at one point, to have a house cleaner come and work with J every week to support him to clean on a regular basis. And to have him pay her or him. (I know somebody who would do this. She charges very reasonably.) M was adamant, no. That J had to do it. Well. There has always been conflict about this. What do you think about this idea?</p><p></p><p>I am understanding that the point here is to remove as many points of contention as possible, and to anticipate all areas of potential friction.</p><p></p><p>So here we are:</p><p></p><p>Prior to coming back, if he wants to:</p><p></p><p>--Medical treatment for liver and treatment compliance.</p><p>--Set up therapy, and go.</p><p>--Automatic payment of rent.</p><p>--Pay for someone to help him comply with keeping place clean.</p><p>--I really want to say no drug use on the property; and no smoking inside the unit. (I checked. It is legal to do so.) Do you really think this is a mistake? I would do this for every tenant. Even though I could not and would not monitor it.</p><p></p><p>I just read that the HUD rental agreement has a no-drug provision. It is not really enforce-able except in drastic situations. But it is a matter of principle.</p><p></p><p>Thank you very much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 742144, member: 18958"] Thank you very much Caretoomuch. I am agreeing with you. The hurdle I cannot get behind is his taking care of the place. He is a pig. M will go crazy and come to me with constant complaint. M is the one who has worked hard to fix the place up. It is newly painted, new kitchen, virtually new bath, new floors, new wiring, etc. It is not too much to expect that the place not be destroyed. When my son moved in last time, the tub was clean. When he left it took somebody 4 hours to clean it. I had proposed to M at one point, to have a house cleaner come and work with J every week to support him to clean on a regular basis. And to have him pay her or him. (I know somebody who would do this. She charges very reasonably.) M was adamant, no. That J had to do it. Well. There has always been conflict about this. What do you think about this idea? I am understanding that the point here is to remove as many points of contention as possible, and to anticipate all areas of potential friction. So here we are: Prior to coming back, if he wants to: --Medical treatment for liver and treatment compliance. --Set up therapy, and go. --Automatic payment of rent. --Pay for someone to help him comply with keeping place clean. --I really want to say no drug use on the property; and no smoking inside the unit. (I checked. It is legal to do so.) Do you really think this is a mistake? I would do this for every tenant. Even though I could not and would not monitor it. I just read that the HUD rental agreement has a no-drug provision. It is not really enforce-able except in drastic situations. But it is a matter of principle. Thank you very much. [/QUOTE]
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