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<blockquote data-quote="Tired out" data-source="post: 742204" data-attributes="member: 23103"><p>I understand and get your position. Perhaps the drug clause should be in every lease, it gives grounds for eviction. I have found that the less I try to control my son's actions the better he does- I think mine needs me NOT to tell him what he should or shouldn't do. They KNOW what they should or shouldn't do. We have already instilled in them what they need to do. I think subconsciously doing what they know we don't want them to do gives them control. Once you quit saying it, and it will take a little while for it to sink in for him, you may see a change in his behavior. </p><p></p><p></p><p> Heck, unless you live on the same property you don't know most of what renters do. My son-in-law has rental properties. His are no pets and they always sneak in pets. He has replaced more carpets than I can count! </p><p></p><p>As for his SSI check.. I agree that the whole thing shouldn't be going for pot. It's legal in your state? find out the going price. OR will medicaid cover it for mental disorders or just physical pain? I wonder if he would go to a doctor and discuss it? Maybe he only like it because it is illicit. Like a little kid sneaking a beer, it is only good if he "can't " do it? </p><p>you could even try doing a budget sheet with him so he can see it in black and white (that helped my son a little)</p><p>$750 SSI</p><p>- 120 month cleaning service</p><p>- 30 month water</p><p>- 50 month heat</p><p>- 50 month electric</p><p>- 200 month food</p><p>- 35 month phone</p><p>- 50 month living--clothes, soap, laundry etc.</p><p>-65 month- rent-- to be put in savings account-- after 1 year = $780</p><p> 100 misc.. what ever he wants. </p><p>that leave that 100 for pot, if he desires to waste his funds on it.</p><p>But do check to see about the gov't help for electric, water, gas, phone. There is a free phone for those on medicaid--I believe it is called safelink.com. it is a low end smart phone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tired out, post: 742204, member: 23103"] I understand and get your position. Perhaps the drug clause should be in every lease, it gives grounds for eviction. I have found that the less I try to control my son's actions the better he does- I think mine needs me NOT to tell him what he should or shouldn't do. They KNOW what they should or shouldn't do. We have already instilled in them what they need to do. I think subconsciously doing what they know we don't want them to do gives them control. Once you quit saying it, and it will take a little while for it to sink in for him, you may see a change in his behavior. Heck, unless you live on the same property you don't know most of what renters do. My son-in-law has rental properties. His are no pets and they always sneak in pets. He has replaced more carpets than I can count! As for his SSI check.. I agree that the whole thing shouldn't be going for pot. It's legal in your state? find out the going price. OR will medicaid cover it for mental disorders or just physical pain? I wonder if he would go to a doctor and discuss it? Maybe he only like it because it is illicit. Like a little kid sneaking a beer, it is only good if he "can't " do it? you could even try doing a budget sheet with him so he can see it in black and white (that helped my son a little) $750 SSI - 120 month cleaning service - 30 month water - 50 month heat - 50 month electric - 200 month food - 35 month phone - 50 month living--clothes, soap, laundry etc. -65 month- rent-- to be put in savings account-- after 1 year = $780 100 misc.. what ever he wants. that leave that 100 for pot, if he desires to waste his funds on it. But do check to see about the gov't help for electric, water, gas, phone. There is a free phone for those on medicaid--I believe it is called safelink.com. it is a low end smart phone. [/QUOTE]
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