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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 678448" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>Well, those people took hubs advice and told her she had to find somewhere else. She is living with someone we don't know and know nothing about. It too, will be temporary, I am sure. </p><p></p><p>She called today and left a "guilt" message about her living situation and wants me to call her because she needs to talk to me. My gut is clenched just thinking about it. </p><p></p><p>I hate that this is how I feel every time she tries to contact me: dread, anxiety, worry, fear....followed by guilt for being the kind of mother that has that response. But based on the message she left, full of subtle accusation because of her housing problems, I know to expect manipulation, guilt tripping...and there is always the possibility of escalation into rage. </p><p></p><p>Depending on what she needs or wants from me, it might be mild. That is usually how it is: when she needs something or needs me to do something, the manipulations are subtle. When she doesn't and just wants a target for her unhappiness (or bc I don't give her her way), anything goes. </p><p></p><p>Either way, whatever is said will most likely be turned and twisted against me to bolster her "poor me, my mother leaves me on the streets" story. She is always the victim and I am always the villain. I am tired of being cast as the bad guy in the story of her life.</p><p></p><p>Therapist says not to feel guilty; expecting her to go into therapy for drug use and psychiatric counseling is not unreasonable in order to feel safe having her in my home. Especially with her long, past history and self-destructive behavior (that almost took her life). But feelings aren't faucets and aren't so easily turned off.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 678448, member: 19905"] Well, those people took hubs advice and told her she had to find somewhere else. She is living with someone we don't know and know nothing about. It too, will be temporary, I am sure. She called today and left a "guilt" message about her living situation and wants me to call her because she needs to talk to me. My gut is clenched just thinking about it. I hate that this is how I feel every time she tries to contact me: dread, anxiety, worry, fear....followed by guilt for being the kind of mother that has that response. But based on the message she left, full of subtle accusation because of her housing problems, I know to expect manipulation, guilt tripping...and there is always the possibility of escalation into rage. Depending on what she needs or wants from me, it might be mild. That is usually how it is: when she needs something or needs me to do something, the manipulations are subtle. When she doesn't and just wants a target for her unhappiness (or bc I don't give her her way), anything goes. Either way, whatever is said will most likely be turned and twisted against me to bolster her "poor me, my mother leaves me on the streets" story. She is always the victim and I am always the villain. I am tired of being cast as the bad guy in the story of her life. Therapist says not to feel guilty; expecting her to go into therapy for drug use and psychiatric counseling is not unreasonable in order to feel safe having her in my home. Especially with her long, past history and self-destructive behavior (that almost took her life). But feelings aren't faucets and aren't so easily turned off. [/QUOTE]
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