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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 94250" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so so sorry. It truly stinks to live in fear. In my case, it was of my 13yo. He started battering me, I called hte cops. They wanted to know why I didn't take abelt to his tushie. I said because it doesn't work. been there done that, makes it all so much worse. Told them we would call them as needed. But we would NOT hit him. (They say OK has a law allowing parents to hit kids, but I know social services says otherwise. I also know that when he was younger we tried spanking and it make the entire situation WORSE). He went to the jail overnight, then to the youth shelter. Was kicked out of youth shelter and thye told me to come get him or it would be abandonment. I said to charge me with whatever, my other 2 kids and I were not safe if he was here. We went through social services investigation a few years before when difficult child went into a psychiatric hospital and we needed services for Jess and thank you. </p><p></p><p>Our pediatrician reported abuse (as she should have) and a brain dead social worker (new, with NO head on her shoulders) visited us, the psychiatric hospital, school, and interviewed my daughter with the school principal present. SW convinced Jess that it was all Jess's fault - BS!! And first repeort was verbal on her visit to the psychiatric hospital, SW thought difficult child would never be safe in a family environment. Then the written report came 6 long weeks later that he would be fine if husband and I each spent more 1 on 1 time iwht him!!! He was the ONLY child who ever got 1 on 1 time!! I gave birth to 3 kids!!! husband and I did hte best we could, but could not find hours daily to spend 1 on 1 with any of our kids!!! Well, except thank you who was in preschool 3 days a week and home the rest of the time.</p><p></p><p>My parents, bless them, took difficult child in after the youth shelter kicked him out. We visit him as needed, and are beginning to have a good relationship with him, but it is based on NO DISCIPLINE, he just visits occasionally or we do something with him. Not all flowers and fun, but after 2 years we are starting.</p><p></p><p>For your daughter, call the cops. every time she abuses you. Print off the law on domestic violence, battery, etc and give a copy to the officers as you ask them to uphold it.</p><p></p><p>You do no favors to your younger child by letting the older abuse you and your home. NONE. It is up to you to set the tone. Cut off that cell, take away any tv, dvd, cd computer or whatever she has access to. If she is on drugs she will take htem to sell for drugs soon anyway. Make sure there is a lock on the door to your room, your younger child's room, and any valuables are locked up in your room.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 94250, member: 1233"] I am so so sorry. It truly stinks to live in fear. In my case, it was of my 13yo. He started battering me, I called hte cops. They wanted to know why I didn't take abelt to his tushie. I said because it doesn't work. been there done that, makes it all so much worse. Told them we would call them as needed. But we would NOT hit him. (They say OK has a law allowing parents to hit kids, but I know social services says otherwise. I also know that when he was younger we tried spanking and it make the entire situation WORSE). He went to the jail overnight, then to the youth shelter. Was kicked out of youth shelter and thye told me to come get him or it would be abandonment. I said to charge me with whatever, my other 2 kids and I were not safe if he was here. We went through social services investigation a few years before when difficult child went into a psychiatric hospital and we needed services for Jess and thank you. Our pediatrician reported abuse (as she should have) and a brain dead social worker (new, with NO head on her shoulders) visited us, the psychiatric hospital, school, and interviewed my daughter with the school principal present. SW convinced Jess that it was all Jess's fault - BS!! And first repeort was verbal on her visit to the psychiatric hospital, SW thought difficult child would never be safe in a family environment. Then the written report came 6 long weeks later that he would be fine if husband and I each spent more 1 on 1 time iwht him!!! He was the ONLY child who ever got 1 on 1 time!! I gave birth to 3 kids!!! husband and I did hte best we could, but could not find hours daily to spend 1 on 1 with any of our kids!!! Well, except thank you who was in preschool 3 days a week and home the rest of the time. My parents, bless them, took difficult child in after the youth shelter kicked him out. We visit him as needed, and are beginning to have a good relationship with him, but it is based on NO DISCIPLINE, he just visits occasionally or we do something with him. Not all flowers and fun, but after 2 years we are starting. For your daughter, call the cops. every time she abuses you. Print off the law on domestic violence, battery, etc and give a copy to the officers as you ask them to uphold it. You do no favors to your younger child by letting the older abuse you and your home. NONE. It is up to you to set the tone. Cut off that cell, take away any tv, dvd, cd computer or whatever she has access to. If she is on drugs she will take htem to sell for drugs soon anyway. Make sure there is a lock on the door to your room, your younger child's room, and any valuables are locked up in your room. Hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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