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I think I am ready to give up on her
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 94291" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Hi,</p><p>I agree about taking away the cell phone, and that anger and agitation can be signs of depression.</p><p>If you can sit her down and talk with-her during a calm moment, spell out the new rules--i.e. if she breaks curfew, she loses XYZ. (I would also cut her slack for about 5-10 min. but don't tell her that.) In regard to what exactly she loses, if you think you can hold to it, go ahead and lock the door. She's nearly 18 anyway. I know you hate to drive her away, but it's HER behavior that's causing the repercussions, not yours. You are simply following through with-a rule. (by the way, if she shouts, "Are you threatening me?" you reply in a calm voice, "That's a rule, not a threat." Then walk away. Do not engage in any more conversation than you have to.</p><p></p><p>Make some time to be with-your easy child, just the 2 of you (in fact, your husband too, since your relationship is on the rocks--you need to do fun things). Do not talk about difficult child during that special time--if you go out to dinner, a movie, whatever.</p><p></p><p>I would go through difficult child's room and make sure there are no drugs in there. It's your house and YOU could get into trouble.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 94291, member: 3419"] Hi, I agree about taking away the cell phone, and that anger and agitation can be signs of depression. If you can sit her down and talk with-her during a calm moment, spell out the new rules--i.e. if she breaks curfew, she loses XYZ. (I would also cut her slack for about 5-10 min. but don't tell her that.) In regard to what exactly she loses, if you think you can hold to it, go ahead and lock the door. She's nearly 18 anyway. I know you hate to drive her away, but it's HER behavior that's causing the repercussions, not yours. You are simply following through with-a rule. (by the way, if she shouts, "Are you threatening me?" you reply in a calm voice, "That's a rule, not a threat." Then walk away. Do not engage in any more conversation than you have to. Make some time to be with-your easy child, just the 2 of you (in fact, your husband too, since your relationship is on the rocks--you need to do fun things). Do not talk about difficult child during that special time--if you go out to dinner, a movie, whatever. I would go through difficult child's room and make sure there are no drugs in there. It's your house and YOU could get into trouble. [/QUOTE]
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