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I think I'm done.... I can't live a lie
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 696156" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>I wish you and yours the best. There is no right or wrong way to deal with our children, do what is best for you. My son started using at an early age and it has been hell. He was stealing from me, his 'friends' were stealing from me with his help.</p><p></p><p>I cam very close to an emotional breakdown and I knew I had to change my situation. My son became angry and detached from me after I cut off the money. He lived homeless for a few years, went back to dealing and was put on probation. He did start contact with me again after about 5 years of not really hearing from him. He does have a job. Now, six months into our new relationship, the requests for money are starting all over again. I refuse to go back to that life. He will probably cut off contact again. It makes me feel as if I serve no other purpose than to provide money.</p><p></p><p>It is so very hard, these are the people we love the most in life. The alcohol and drug use turn them into people we don't recognize. The lies, the endless drama.........</p><p></p><p>You will read it in posts all over the forum, but it is very important, your child is an adult now, let him (her) suffer the consequences. Put yourself first, focus on you and your health.</p><p></p><p>I never give up hope, but I will not hold my breath waiting for my child to change his life style for the better. It truly is their life, their choices.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 696156, member: 13558"] I wish you and yours the best. There is no right or wrong way to deal with our children, do what is best for you. My son started using at an early age and it has been hell. He was stealing from me, his 'friends' were stealing from me with his help. I cam very close to an emotional breakdown and I knew I had to change my situation. My son became angry and detached from me after I cut off the money. He lived homeless for a few years, went back to dealing and was put on probation. He did start contact with me again after about 5 years of not really hearing from him. He does have a job. Now, six months into our new relationship, the requests for money are starting all over again. I refuse to go back to that life. He will probably cut off contact again. It makes me feel as if I serve no other purpose than to provide money. It is so very hard, these are the people we love the most in life. The alcohol and drug use turn them into people we don't recognize. The lies, the endless drama......... You will read it in posts all over the forum, but it is very important, your child is an adult now, let him (her) suffer the consequences. Put yourself first, focus on you and your health. I never give up hope, but I will not hold my breath waiting for my child to change his life style for the better. It truly is their life, their choices. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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