Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
I understand now!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 183889" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Stands, here's why I think you are attention-seeking rather than asking for help. You don't tell us what is going on -- we have to read between the lines or, worse yet, see the "news" in a reply you've done to someone else. </p><p> </p><p>Your son moves back in. Nothing by you until someone else does a post about it. Your son has now moved out. You don't tell us about it, you mention it as an aside. Did he move out voluntarily or because you guys said go? Are you helping him in any way where he is? Don't you think that at least those who truly care what happens to you would have wanted to know these pieces of news?</p><p> </p><p>Look at posts by others. If there was news they didn't tell, the first thing they do is apologize and try to explain what took them so long. We all pretty much write our honest feelings. We don't use cryptic messages. Several have asked what you "understand" now. You have yet to respond to any of that.</p><p> </p><p>We all post differently but there is some commonality -- there is an honest discussion about things that have happened and why. We care enough about each other to be honest. I've not followed the advice given me to others here. However, I went out of my way to explain why I didn't. I ate crow when they were right and they rejoiced when my way worked. You just keep on doing the same thing over and over but never really explaining. </p><p> </p><p>These are the reasons why I think all you are doing is seeking attention. What we say and how we feel is basically irrelevant as long as we say something. </p><p> </p><p>Hopefully, you can get some help from your therapist. Believe it or not, I do want your son to succeed and your family to be happy. Be as honest as possible with your therapist. Try to find out why you have such a need for control, why you are willing to enable regardless of the risk to your son and the cost to your family. Keep going to meetings. You do need all the help and support you can get.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 183889, member: 3626"] Stands, here's why I think you are attention-seeking rather than asking for help. You don't tell us what is going on -- we have to read between the lines or, worse yet, see the "news" in a reply you've done to someone else. Your son moves back in. Nothing by you until someone else does a post about it. Your son has now moved out. You don't tell us about it, you mention it as an aside. Did he move out voluntarily or because you guys said go? Are you helping him in any way where he is? Don't you think that at least those who truly care what happens to you would have wanted to know these pieces of news? Look at posts by others. If there was news they didn't tell, the first thing they do is apologize and try to explain what took them so long. We all pretty much write our honest feelings. We don't use cryptic messages. Several have asked what you "understand" now. You have yet to respond to any of that. We all post differently but there is some commonality -- there is an honest discussion about things that have happened and why. We care enough about each other to be honest. I've not followed the advice given me to others here. However, I went out of my way to explain why I didn't. I ate crow when they were right and they rejoiced when my way worked. You just keep on doing the same thing over and over but never really explaining. These are the reasons why I think all you are doing is seeking attention. What we say and how we feel is basically irrelevant as long as we say something. Hopefully, you can get some help from your therapist. Believe it or not, I do want your son to succeed and your family to be happy. Be as honest as possible with your therapist. Try to find out why you have such a need for control, why you are willing to enable regardless of the risk to your son and the cost to your family. Keep going to meetings. You do need all the help and support you can get. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
I understand now!
Top