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I WAS in a good mood today....now this
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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 697038" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>We are going to our condo in Florida for eleven days over Thanksgiving. Our son is about 1.5 hour drive from us. I had hoped he could come and stay a few days then but just not sure if I can handle it. We would have to remove the alcohol from the condo, don't want any temptation. I don't know if I'm ready to see him then. Maybe I will ask husband to go spend one day with him? I just am not looking forward to the dynamics of all of this. When I see him I know it will make me weak and I have been working so hard to be strong. Maybe he can drive up with his girlfriend?</p><p></p><p>We won't be able to afford to go again over Christmas (and I'm out of vacation days for 2016). We had talked about flying him home for Christmas (did not talk to him about it) but that was before his relapse and the whole thing even then gave me TREMENDOUS anxiety. I am not ready for him to come home for a visit. I think about what his last house manager said - how his mom wouldn't let him come home for a long time. So that makes me feel okay about feeling this way. We haven't discussed Christmas with him. It's four months off but of course I'm seriously stressing over it. I don't want to hurt him but I don't want him home either. </p><p></p><p>If I could see and feel him changing it would be different I think. As I said, he gives me mixed signals.</p><p></p><p>TL and Leafy - I agree that we can't wait to heal because their change may never come. Ugh I hate that thought. I have always been a positive, glass half full person so it's very hard not to be that way in all of this also. But I have been so beat down by all of this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 697038, member: 15032"] We are going to our condo in Florida for eleven days over Thanksgiving. Our son is about 1.5 hour drive from us. I had hoped he could come and stay a few days then but just not sure if I can handle it. We would have to remove the alcohol from the condo, don't want any temptation. I don't know if I'm ready to see him then. Maybe I will ask husband to go spend one day with him? I just am not looking forward to the dynamics of all of this. When I see him I know it will make me weak and I have been working so hard to be strong. Maybe he can drive up with his girlfriend? We won't be able to afford to go again over Christmas (and I'm out of vacation days for 2016). We had talked about flying him home for Christmas (did not talk to him about it) but that was before his relapse and the whole thing even then gave me TREMENDOUS anxiety. I am not ready for him to come home for a visit. I think about what his last house manager said - how his mom wouldn't let him come home for a long time. So that makes me feel okay about feeling this way. We haven't discussed Christmas with him. It's four months off but of course I'm seriously stressing over it. I don't want to hurt him but I don't want him home either. If I could see and feel him changing it would be different I think. As I said, he gives me mixed signals. TL and Leafy - I agree that we can't wait to heal because their change may never come. Ugh I hate that thought. I have always been a positive, glass half full person so it's very hard not to be that way in all of this also. But I have been so beat down by all of this. [/QUOTE]
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