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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 739638" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Mine have pulled the last minute bail out so many times. It’s infuriating, especially when it’s something I’m doing for them! I’ve driven into the city only to find them MIA when I arrive at whatever address they are crashing at at the moment. Phones off, no response. It’s a 30-40 minute drive for me, one way. No consideration at all. I’ve started just not inviting them to a lot of family events, because they don’t have their own transportation, and I know chances are better than half that they’ll change their mind and bail without notice while we’re on the way to pick them up. I’m half considering telling them we’re not having Thanksgiving this year, because trying to get them here just adds so much stress to the day. </p><p></p><p>The worst was trying to get these two ready for, and to, their sister’s wedding this spring. E wanted them there so badly and wanted S as her maid of honor. She didn’t expect any of the traditional maid of honor stuff (shower, bachelorette party), she just wanted her sister there to stand up with her. And I wasn’t sure right up to the rehearsal if it was going to happen. She kept bailing on dress fittings, and showed up once almost to drunk to stand up straight in her heels. At 10:00 in the morning. C bailed on me three times when I was trying to get him out to pick out a presentable outfit. I made them both stay with me for 48 hours prior to the wedding so I would be sure they would be both sober and present, without last minute panicked searches for them. By some miracle they pulled off the day, but good Lord what they put me through to try to make it happen. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Arrghhh. Venting, venting, venting. </p><p></p><p>I’m definitely cutting back on availability for any favors after all this. I’ve never gone so far as to block them, but you may be onto something there! At least mine are t usually nasty directly. They just pull the disappearing act when they decide they don’t want to deal with something.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 739638, member: 23349"] Mine have pulled the last minute bail out so many times. It’s infuriating, especially when it’s something I’m doing for them! I’ve driven into the city only to find them MIA when I arrive at whatever address they are crashing at at the moment. Phones off, no response. It’s a 30-40 minute drive for me, one way. No consideration at all. I’ve started just not inviting them to a lot of family events, because they don’t have their own transportation, and I know chances are better than half that they’ll change their mind and bail without notice while we’re on the way to pick them up. I’m half considering telling them we’re not having Thanksgiving this year, because trying to get them here just adds so much stress to the day. The worst was trying to get these two ready for, and to, their sister’s wedding this spring. E wanted them there so badly and wanted S as her maid of honor. She didn’t expect any of the traditional maid of honor stuff (shower, bachelorette party), she just wanted her sister there to stand up with her. And I wasn’t sure right up to the rehearsal if it was going to happen. She kept bailing on dress fittings, and showed up once almost to drunk to stand up straight in her heels. At 10:00 in the morning. C bailed on me three times when I was trying to get him out to pick out a presentable outfit. I made them both stay with me for 48 hours prior to the wedding so I would be sure they would be both sober and present, without last minute panicked searches for them. By some miracle they pulled off the day, but good Lord what they put me through to try to make it happen. Arrghhh. Venting, venting, venting. I’m definitely cutting back on availability for any favors after all this. I’ve never gone so far as to block them, but you may be onto something there! At least mine are t usually nasty directly. They just pull the disappearing act when they decide they don’t want to deal with something. [/QUOTE]
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