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"If Things Don't Get Better This Year, I Will Kill Myself"
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<blockquote data-quote="ChickPea" data-source="post: 755205" data-attributes="member: 24089"><p>I'm sorry you have had to make similar decisions, but really thank you for your supportive and thoughtful words: <strong>They often use our fear of them hurting themselves to get us to back off</strong>. I think this is exactly what she is doing (at least in this instance). When she is feeling things sliding out of her grip, this is a card she can "play" so to speak. Thanks for putting that in words. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I'm leaning this way. Stuck in my own goop, I can't get the perspective on this that I might if I were advising a friend, but part of me feels like now is the time. At the very least to say what you've said on the papers. I think I need to, at least to document and show a willingness to continue to support our grandchild. I'm a bit trapped in her web of "not telling anyone" but I want to be comfortable with how things are so that when our grandbaby is old enough to notice he doesn't feel like something is wrong with <em>him. </em></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thank you, [USER=23811]@Blindsided[/USER] it was helpful to hear that. I believe I'm operating from a little fear from my daughter doing the same thing. She was/is a master manipulator and lied herself through 2 treatment facilities and 1 group home, <em>plus</em> had her P.O. wrapped around her finger to the point where we had to report him to his superiors! This was all when she was 17/18 years old.</p><p></p><p>[USER=18958]@Copabanana[/USER] interesting point about my focus on her suicide threats and not the threats she made to myself and my husband. She's threatened the same thing about the alleged father (harming him). I don't know that her sober brain would ever act on that, but who knows what her self-medicated brain would do. My husband and I have both confessed that we worry that we wouldn't put it out of the realm of possibility that she could "walk off a bridge" so to speak, with her and the baby. Romanticizing and end to them both and an eternity together. It's scary and sad to admit that we have both secretly fretted over it happening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ChickPea, post: 755205, member: 24089"] I'm sorry you have had to make similar decisions, but really thank you for your supportive and thoughtful words: [B]They often use our fear of them hurting themselves to get us to back off[/B]. I think this is exactly what she is doing (at least in this instance). When she is feeling things sliding out of her grip, this is a card she can "play" so to speak. Thanks for putting that in words. I'm leaning this way. Stuck in my own goop, I can't get the perspective on this that I might if I were advising a friend, but part of me feels like now is the time. At the very least to say what you've said on the papers. I think I need to, at least to document and show a willingness to continue to support our grandchild. I'm a bit trapped in her web of "not telling anyone" but I want to be comfortable with how things are so that when our grandbaby is old enough to notice he doesn't feel like something is wrong with [I]him. [/I] Thank you, [USER=23811]@Blindsided[/USER] it was helpful to hear that. I believe I'm operating from a little fear from my daughter doing the same thing. She was/is a master manipulator and lied herself through 2 treatment facilities and 1 group home, [I]plus[/I] had her P.O. wrapped around her finger to the point where we had to report him to his superiors! This was all when she was 17/18 years old. [USER=18958]@Copabanana[/USER] interesting point about my focus on her suicide threats and not the threats she made to myself and my husband. She's threatened the same thing about the alleged father (harming him). I don't know that her sober brain would ever act on that, but who knows what her self-medicated brain would do. My husband and I have both confessed that we worry that we wouldn't put it out of the realm of possibility that she could "walk off a bridge" so to speak, with her and the baby. Romanticizing and end to them both and an eternity together. It's scary and sad to admit that we have both secretly fretted over it happening. [/QUOTE]
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