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"If you don't care, why should I?" Is this TOO tough?
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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 447892" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>Happy endings? How do you know you're at the end? Most of us here struggle with various ongoing situations with our difficult children. Most of us here are relieved when we see PROGRESS in our kids (read Nancy's thread about her difficult child getting a job and the progress she's made in her sober house). </p><p></p><p>Shaking an addiction - whatever that may be - is a one day at a time process. </p><p></p><p>The most important - and the very hardest thing to realize and accept - is that your son is the only one who can battle his addiction. You cannot "help" him to do this or to see this. You can, however, make it clear to him that you will not support or enable his choices while he is using. </p><p></p><p>You can pray for his recovery, you can make it crystal clear that you will support any effort he makes toward recovery, you can make sure he knows you love him no matter what (you don't always have to like him) and you can work on living your own life in the meantime. This is where I am at right now, and it's easier said than done. My difficult child's addiciton isn't drugs, it's danger. And, after years of fighting this intagible foe, I am laying down my sword and praying she'll pick it up.</p><p></p><p>You may not always hear what you'd like to hear in this forum, but rest assured that we do understand.</p><p></p><p>Dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 447892, member: 9175"] Happy endings? How do you know you're at the end? Most of us here struggle with various ongoing situations with our difficult children. Most of us here are relieved when we see PROGRESS in our kids (read Nancy's thread about her difficult child getting a job and the progress she's made in her sober house). Shaking an addiction - whatever that may be - is a one day at a time process. The most important - and the very hardest thing to realize and accept - is that your son is the only one who can battle his addiction. You cannot "help" him to do this or to see this. You can, however, make it clear to him that you will not support or enable his choices while he is using. You can pray for his recovery, you can make it crystal clear that you will support any effort he makes toward recovery, you can make sure he knows you love him no matter what (you don't always have to like him) and you can work on living your own life in the meantime. This is where I am at right now, and it's easier said than done. My difficult child's addiciton isn't drugs, it's danger. And, after years of fighting this intagible foe, I am laying down my sword and praying she'll pick it up. You may not always hear what you'd like to hear in this forum, but rest assured that we do understand. Dash [/QUOTE]
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