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I'm so mad. My inner mama bear is screaming to be released.
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 482666" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Scary to think they are going to reward such manipulative behavior. I think of some of the others here, do you think they will just say you are refusing to see the positives? We here know what you mean...but I think they just might not get it. They might go along with your request, afterall you are the parents. But, they could end up being part of a huge triangulation between you and difficult child and the school. I would be just a little concerned that no one feels sorry for her if you do this, and then goes on and on and on giving the poor girl with the mean parents lots of attention. </p><p></p><p>that is something people who dont know how to work with kids who have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) do too. They buy into the poor me stuff, and the superficially charming stuff (then at home being ugly). It can do so much extra damage. </p><p></p><p>I hope it doesn't happen that way, just popped into my head. If they are this clueless to begin with, then I wondered. Maybe you can handle it internally... say sorry, we just can't make the ceremony (if there is one) and explain in private to difficult child that the award is going to be put away for her for when she really does earn it and you will be proud of her when that time comes. (does she know about it?--if not maybe then you can just ignore it after telling the school you can't make it but will pick it up for her so they dont give it to her) (a snarky part of me would want to give it to her sibs, ...but that is just mean, sorry, I know it is not a revenge thing, she just is not in that place and it would not be good for her to get this)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 482666, member: 12886"] Scary to think they are going to reward such manipulative behavior. I think of some of the others here, do you think they will just say you are refusing to see the positives? We here know what you mean...but I think they just might not get it. They might go along with your request, afterall you are the parents. But, they could end up being part of a huge triangulation between you and difficult child and the school. I would be just a little concerned that no one feels sorry for her if you do this, and then goes on and on and on giving the poor girl with the mean parents lots of attention. that is something people who dont know how to work with kids who have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) do too. They buy into the poor me stuff, and the superficially charming stuff (then at home being ugly). It can do so much extra damage. I hope it doesn't happen that way, just popped into my head. If they are this clueless to begin with, then I wondered. Maybe you can handle it internally... say sorry, we just can't make the ceremony (if there is one) and explain in private to difficult child that the award is going to be put away for her for when she really does earn it and you will be proud of her when that time comes. (does she know about it?--if not maybe then you can just ignore it after telling the school you can't make it but will pick it up for her so they dont give it to her) (a snarky part of me would want to give it to her sibs, ...but that is just mean, sorry, I know it is not a revenge thing, she just is not in that place and it would not be good for her to get this) [/QUOTE]
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