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<blockquote data-quote="AliceLee" data-source="post: 19323" data-attributes="member: 3104"><p>Hi guys, I'm feeling like I've hit bottom (again) with difficult child. To briefly recount what's been going on: Abusive boyfriend attacked difficult child Monday night---difficult child called police and boyfriend was incarcerated. Police issued 72 hour protective order on Monday. difficult child filed for extended protective order on Wednesday, after having all of her injuries documented. difficult child was going to stay with us until she could find a new roomate/place to live.</p><p></p><p>On Friday, difficult child told me that boyfriend had been denied bond at 11 am hearing. She had been on the phone with boyfriend's mother, who was irate that boyfriend was being held without bond for domestic violence. boyfriend's mother was angry at my daughter for calling the police on her darling son. I advised difficult child to stop talking to boyfriend's mother. difficult child responded by saying,"You can't tell me what to do." I agreed, but said I still didn't think it was a good idea. I was told to mind my own business.</p><p></p><p>Saturday morning, I found out (message left by victim protection on our home voice mail) that boyfriend had been released from jail on Friday night (how could this happen if he'd been denied bond at the bond hearing Friday morning?) I asked difficult child if she knew that boyfriend had been released. She said, "Yes, how did YOU know?" I explained that message was left on our voice mail. Then, I asked, "how did YOU know?" (She has no phone and was working Friday night). She said that boyfriend's mom told her. (I did not respond to this bit of info.) difficult child then began to berate me for not minding my own business. I told her I was afraid that she was going to go back with boyfriend. She told me that was none of my business...she can be with whoever she wants. I said that she is my daughter, her safety is my business and that I was afraid he was going to kill her. At that, she began SCREAMING at me that I was crazy, this was none of my f***ing business, that I was a f***ing b**ch, she couldn't stand living here, etc. She then grabbed some of her clothes and stormed out, saying that she was going back to the apartment. Haven't heard from her since.</p><p></p><p>I am so afraid for her---read a statistic that 75% of domestic violence homicides occur after a woman has left and comes back.</p><p>Also feeling so guilty ...when I kicked her out last fall, she moved in with him because she didn't have anywhere else to go. Wish I could keep my mouth shut with unasked-for-advice. I'm trying to detatch and let God handle this, but I can't seem to do that...I'm a wreck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AliceLee, post: 19323, member: 3104"] Hi guys, I'm feeling like I've hit bottom (again) with difficult child. To briefly recount what's been going on: Abusive boyfriend attacked difficult child Monday night---difficult child called police and boyfriend was incarcerated. Police issued 72 hour protective order on Monday. difficult child filed for extended protective order on Wednesday, after having all of her injuries documented. difficult child was going to stay with us until she could find a new roomate/place to live. On Friday, difficult child told me that boyfriend had been denied bond at 11 am hearing. She had been on the phone with boyfriend's mother, who was irate that boyfriend was being held without bond for domestic violence. boyfriend's mother was angry at my daughter for calling the police on her darling son. I advised difficult child to stop talking to boyfriend's mother. difficult child responded by saying,"You can't tell me what to do." I agreed, but said I still didn't think it was a good idea. I was told to mind my own business. Saturday morning, I found out (message left by victim protection on our home voice mail) that boyfriend had been released from jail on Friday night (how could this happen if he'd been denied bond at the bond hearing Friday morning?) I asked difficult child if she knew that boyfriend had been released. She said, "Yes, how did YOU know?" I explained that message was left on our voice mail. Then, I asked, "how did YOU know?" (She has no phone and was working Friday night). She said that boyfriend's mom told her. (I did not respond to this bit of info.) difficult child then began to berate me for not minding my own business. I told her I was afraid that she was going to go back with boyfriend. She told me that was none of my business...she can be with whoever she wants. I said that she is my daughter, her safety is my business and that I was afraid he was going to kill her. At that, she began SCREAMING at me that I was crazy, this was none of my f***ing business, that I was a f***ing b**ch, she couldn't stand living here, etc. She then grabbed some of her clothes and stormed out, saying that she was going back to the apartment. Haven't heard from her since. I am so afraid for her---read a statistic that 75% of domestic violence homicides occur after a woman has left and comes back. Also feeling so guilty ...when I kicked her out last fall, she moved in with him because she didn't have anywhere else to go. Wish I could keep my mouth shut with unasked-for-advice. I'm trying to detatch and let God handle this, but I can't seem to do that...I'm a wreck. [/QUOTE]
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