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I'm Back - I Wish I Weren't, But Now I'm A Grandma
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 749361" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I agree with this a thousand percent:</p><p>Your daughter can't be permitted to use her child as a lever. Right now the baby is too young to realize this. In time grandchild will understand. Let alone how this affects you. You are in the worst possible position now. Doing all of the work to take care of a baby with little or no legal control over the child's welfare. You are at the effect of an irresponsible, selfish, manipulative, uncaring person, who will use you and the baby to extract what she can by destabilizing you, threatening you, and coercing you--through the baby. </p><p></p><p>The only thing I can think that would be worse for the baby is that the baby return to the parents as long as they remain as they are. But the thing is this: As long as the mother and father have legal rights to decide over what happens to this baby, and when, you and the baby are in her hands. To jerk around at will. You are not protecting this baby in the situation you are in. It is walking a plank. Any moment your daughter can force the issue. She is empowered by this. The child is intensely vulnerable. In a paradoxical way, it would almost be better to let her have the baby, and this way CPS would be involved, and there would be leverage on behalf of the baby.</p><p></p><p>I urge you to get legal help as soon as possible. I am so sorry this is happening. I am angry at your daughter for doing this to you and to her child. I am glad you are back here.</p><p></p><p>I guess the 64000 question is whether or not you are willing to raise the baby.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 749361, member: 18958"] I agree with this a thousand percent: Your daughter can't be permitted to use her child as a lever. Right now the baby is too young to realize this. In time grandchild will understand. Let alone how this affects you. You are in the worst possible position now. Doing all of the work to take care of a baby with little or no legal control over the child's welfare. You are at the effect of an irresponsible, selfish, manipulative, uncaring person, who will use you and the baby to extract what she can by destabilizing you, threatening you, and coercing you--through the baby. The only thing I can think that would be worse for the baby is that the baby return to the parents as long as they remain as they are. But the thing is this: As long as the mother and father have legal rights to decide over what happens to this baby, and when, you and the baby are in her hands. To jerk around at will. You are not protecting this baby in the situation you are in. It is walking a plank. Any moment your daughter can force the issue. She is empowered by this. The child is intensely vulnerable. In a paradoxical way, it would almost be better to let her have the baby, and this way CPS would be involved, and there would be leverage on behalf of the baby. I urge you to get legal help as soon as possible. I am so sorry this is happening. I am angry at your daughter for doing this to you and to her child. I am glad you are back here. I guess the 64000 question is whether or not you are willing to raise the baby. [/QUOTE]
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