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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 169003" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Shari, </p><p> </p><p>You know - I think you are a slow cycler. The last time you posted this much about all that you do, yet are greatful for your ability to do so, while husband did diddle? Was whenever you put the leak seal on the camper top. How long ago was that? </p><p> </p><p>The reason I ask is because I feel your situation. My DF's sister in law and brother have a working 25,000 acre cattle ranch and farm, and livestock shows and ponies, and school and she drives bus, and it's insane - her life is insane. She's up at 4:00 AM, they muck, they hay, they silage they groom some they water, then she comes in and starts breakfast - cleans up, and then goes out and cultivates, plows, plants, whatever - and then takes the kids to school, runs a route, comes back, cleans house, fixes lunch goes back out in the field or helps with AI or calving - and then back into town to get the kids, runs her route, does that afterschool stuff, makes dinner, cleans up and back out in the barn for grooming and getting ready for livestock shows, trailers, lighting, fuel and by the time I watched ONE day of her life - WITH 2 difficult children and 2 easy child's and a husbad that drank? </p><p> </p><p>She got my total awe. She does it all - he does the animals and fixes stuff but he's always in a bad mood. ALWAYS. And they eat supper at 9 or 10 at night - and fall asleep sometimes around midnight - then get up and do it all over again....and I think you either LIVE that life and complain so you can keep going - OR you get out and leave it all behind. </p><p> </p><p>When I mentioned getting out to her - she looked at me like I had 3 heads - and said "And do what????" I said "Relax" and she said 'I'd rather be busy and Bit58 than relax." </p><p> </p><p>And I thought to myself - HOW ODD. And then she said - I just need to let a little steam off every now and then - and then i can keep up. </p><p> </p><p>So maybe - you are just like her. You aren't in a funk , maybe you aren't resentful totally - You're just doing what you can do while you can do it and it would be nice to have some help, but since you don't now, and aren't likely to get help in the future - you do the best you can and blow a kettle lid about every 4 months or so. </p><p> </p><p>IIIIIII would tell you - LEAVE it and relax - and I bet you would look at me like I have 3 heads and say - I don't want to - it's my life - I just want___________________and whatver that is for you - YOU figure it out. THEN tell someone. </p><p> </p><p>And as far as the tutoring? I would be dipped in manure if I would pay for that kids tutoring with a Momma that lives a princess fairy tale life. YOU treat her with respect - and in kind she should treat YOU wtih a check for the tutoring - but if you do not ask - you won't get it. And if you don't get it from her - I'd call her grandparents the Warbucks. </p><p> </p><p>Sometimes you get so busy running around - you forget to just stand up for yourself for a moment. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 169003, member: 4964"] Shari, You know - I think you are a slow cycler. The last time you posted this much about all that you do, yet are greatful for your ability to do so, while husband did diddle? Was whenever you put the leak seal on the camper top. How long ago was that? The reason I ask is because I feel your situation. My DF's sister in law and brother have a working 25,000 acre cattle ranch and farm, and livestock shows and ponies, and school and she drives bus, and it's insane - her life is insane. She's up at 4:00 AM, they muck, they hay, they silage they groom some they water, then she comes in and starts breakfast - cleans up, and then goes out and cultivates, plows, plants, whatever - and then takes the kids to school, runs a route, comes back, cleans house, fixes lunch goes back out in the field or helps with AI or calving - and then back into town to get the kids, runs her route, does that afterschool stuff, makes dinner, cleans up and back out in the barn for grooming and getting ready for livestock shows, trailers, lighting, fuel and by the time I watched ONE day of her life - WITH 2 difficult children and 2 easy child's and a husbad that drank? She got my total awe. She does it all - he does the animals and fixes stuff but he's always in a bad mood. ALWAYS. And they eat supper at 9 or 10 at night - and fall asleep sometimes around midnight - then get up and do it all over again....and I think you either LIVE that life and complain so you can keep going - OR you get out and leave it all behind. When I mentioned getting out to her - she looked at me like I had 3 heads - and said "And do what????" I said "Relax" and she said 'I'd rather be busy and Bit58 than relax." And I thought to myself - HOW ODD. And then she said - I just need to let a little steam off every now and then - and then i can keep up. So maybe - you are just like her. You aren't in a funk , maybe you aren't resentful totally - You're just doing what you can do while you can do it and it would be nice to have some help, but since you don't now, and aren't likely to get help in the future - you do the best you can and blow a kettle lid about every 4 months or so. IIIIIII would tell you - LEAVE it and relax - and I bet you would look at me like I have 3 heads and say - I don't want to - it's my life - I just want___________________and whatver that is for you - YOU figure it out. THEN tell someone. And as far as the tutoring? I would be dipped in manure if I would pay for that kids tutoring with a Momma that lives a princess fairy tale life. YOU treat her with respect - and in kind she should treat YOU wtih a check for the tutoring - but if you do not ask - you won't get it. And if you don't get it from her - I'd call her grandparents the Warbucks. Sometimes you get so busy running around - you forget to just stand up for yourself for a moment. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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