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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 213459" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>THe more I read the more I think that this child really NEEDS an evaluation, and probably quite a few so that he can be the person HE wants to be and you all want him to be.</p><p> </p><p>Kids just don't choose to be badly behaved. Well, by 10 some do, but most kids really WANT to please. They don't want to be in trouble. I don't know if it is lerning disabilities (there may be), some autistic spectrum disorder, OCS, or what. It may be a combination of things. the combinationis actually the most likely thing. </p><p> </p><p>I am told 10 is rather late for occupational therapy assessments to be starting, but I think it would be a GREAT wayt o start. If nothing else, it is often easier to get into an Occupational Therapist (OT), the therapies are non-invasive (developoing muscles or providing certain kinds of stimuli rather than medication) and they can do a LOT in a very SHORT, almost immediate seeming time frame. My son thank you went from "I can't do it, I'm worthless" to "I can do this." and being ABLE to cut on a line - in less than a MINUTE - the Occupational Therapist (OT) we were with was showing me the dramatic effect of brushing and joint compression therapy. It wasn't a PERMANENT sense of confidence, or a permanent ability, but it was such a drastic change I was AMAZED. And, given work with the therapies at home and in school, the changes are BECOMING permanent, while providing us the understanding to provide the outlets he needs when he needs them.</p><p> </p><p>I think it is a great sign that he could be so well behaved at a dinner that was important to you. </p><p> </p><p>I also think it will be VERY important to have him see a neurologist (child certified) and to have a sleep deprived EEG to see if he has any seizure-related disorders that can be identified.</p><p> </p><p>There is so much that can be done, can be identified. And improvements and accomodations can be made. There really IS hope. At age 10 I really thought my son Wiz would be in prison by age 16. If it took that long. I was terrified by age 12 that he would kill someone or himself. And now, at age 17 (in less than a week!) he is on track to become a certified machinist next year, and go to college the following year. He is HAPPY, a good big bro, and a is the son I prayed he could be. AND he is SAFE - he makes safe choices!</p><p> </p><p>So there is hope, but it takes a whole lot of work. If you decide that tis isn't for you, well, you can at least give his dad some ideas of ways to help him. And that, is really good too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 213459, member: 1233"] THe more I read the more I think that this child really NEEDS an evaluation, and probably quite a few so that he can be the person HE wants to be and you all want him to be. Kids just don't choose to be badly behaved. Well, by 10 some do, but most kids really WANT to please. They don't want to be in trouble. I don't know if it is lerning disabilities (there may be), some autistic spectrum disorder, OCS, or what. It may be a combination of things. the combinationis actually the most likely thing. I am told 10 is rather late for occupational therapy assessments to be starting, but I think it would be a GREAT wayt o start. If nothing else, it is often easier to get into an Occupational Therapist (OT), the therapies are non-invasive (developoing muscles or providing certain kinds of stimuli rather than medication) and they can do a LOT in a very SHORT, almost immediate seeming time frame. My son thank you went from "I can't do it, I'm worthless" to "I can do this." and being ABLE to cut on a line - in less than a MINUTE - the Occupational Therapist (OT) we were with was showing me the dramatic effect of brushing and joint compression therapy. It wasn't a PERMANENT sense of confidence, or a permanent ability, but it was such a drastic change I was AMAZED. And, given work with the therapies at home and in school, the changes are BECOMING permanent, while providing us the understanding to provide the outlets he needs when he needs them. I think it is a great sign that he could be so well behaved at a dinner that was important to you. I also think it will be VERY important to have him see a neurologist (child certified) and to have a sleep deprived EEG to see if he has any seizure-related disorders that can be identified. There is so much that can be done, can be identified. And improvements and accomodations can be made. There really IS hope. At age 10 I really thought my son Wiz would be in prison by age 16. If it took that long. I was terrified by age 12 that he would kill someone or himself. And now, at age 17 (in less than a week!) he is on track to become a certified machinist next year, and go to college the following year. He is HAPPY, a good big bro, and a is the son I prayed he could be. AND he is SAFE - he makes safe choices! So there is hope, but it takes a whole lot of work. If you decide that tis isn't for you, well, you can at least give his dad some ideas of ways to help him. And that, is really good too. [/QUOTE]
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