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In a totally new place and need perspective? Cedar? Anyone?
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 666144" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>For me, criticism feels like global condemnation. </p><p></p><p>I have been looking at my shaming and blaming behaviors, this morning. I think our self doubt is how we do punish ourselves for daring to defy the negative mother within. We are punishing ourselves as she would have punished us <em>for defying her.</em></p><p></p><p>I think what will happen as we heal is that, little by little, we will dismantle our unquestioning belief in the efficacy of the condemnatory mother within. Not that we will ever reach a place where those negative tapes do not play, so much as that we will reach a place where we know the taste and feel of them, and understand they are not useful in our current situation.</p><p></p><p>It's as though we are navigating a beautiful ship in full sail, having realized our navigation systems are faulty things.</p><p></p><p>We will have to navigate by the stars then, understanding it is our destiny to come safely into the harbor, into the home port, of our choosing.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 666144, member: 17461"] For me, criticism feels like global condemnation. I have been looking at my shaming and blaming behaviors, this morning. I think our self doubt is how we do punish ourselves for daring to defy the negative mother within. We are punishing ourselves as she would have punished us [I]for defying her.[/I] I think what will happen as we heal is that, little by little, we will dismantle our unquestioning belief in the efficacy of the condemnatory mother within. Not that we will ever reach a place where those negative tapes do not play, so much as that we will reach a place where we know the taste and feel of them, and understand they are not useful in our current situation. It's as though we are navigating a beautiful ship in full sail, having realized our navigation systems are faulty things. We will have to navigate by the stars then, understanding it is our destiny to come safely into the harbor, into the home port, of our choosing. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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