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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 666152" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Copa, is the shame response...is it something that is helping you? Or is it confusing you? Or is it hurting you. For me, I burn with the shame of the things I discover about myself, sometimes. But I realized that was a pattern for me, to do that.</p><p></p><p>I realized I do that to myself all the time, over everything.</p><p></p><p>There it is.</p><p></p><p>That heated, red in the face ugliness of myself.</p><p></p><p>Emotional flashback, Copa.</p><p></p><p>Whatever we do, that is the choice we make. Shame...that is something that is not relevant. Donald Trump does not feel shame because he trusts: fairness; strength; the possibility of failure; the possibility of success. The difference I think is that for me, failure means dead, rotting, swollen faced Cedar. Success means Cedar didn't die this time yet.</p><p></p><p>What would success around these issues feel like, Copa?</p><p></p><p>What would failure look like?</p><p></p><p>Given that we can create our own blog or conduct our affairs in any of a thousand other ways, what would each of those things look and feel like?</p><p></p><p>Once we know that, then we take the action we deem acceptable.</p><p></p><p>Again, think of Donald Trump. He rented a stadium for a political rally. Seating 40,000. What chutzpa. He got something like 29,000. </p><p></p><p>Success, or failure?</p><p></p><p>Or are these the actions of a man who does not allow someone else to define him.</p><p></p><p>That is where we are going.</p><p></p><p>No one else gets to define us.</p><p></p><p>Not even those old negative tapes.</p><p></p><p>We will be present, instead. Just, fully present to ourselves, and to our worlds.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 666152, member: 17461"] Copa, is the shame response...is it something that is helping you? Or is it confusing you? Or is it hurting you. For me, I burn with the shame of the things I discover about myself, sometimes. But I realized that was a pattern for me, to do that. I realized I do that to myself all the time, over everything. There it is. That heated, red in the face ugliness of myself. Emotional flashback, Copa. Whatever we do, that is the choice we make. Shame...that is something that is not relevant. Donald Trump does not feel shame because he trusts: fairness; strength; the possibility of failure; the possibility of success. The difference I think is that for me, failure means dead, rotting, swollen faced Cedar. Success means Cedar didn't die this time yet. What would success around these issues feel like, Copa? What would failure look like? Given that we can create our own blog or conduct our affairs in any of a thousand other ways, what would each of those things look and feel like? Once we know that, then we take the action we deem acceptable. Again, think of Donald Trump. He rented a stadium for a political rally. Seating 40,000. What chutzpa. He got something like 29,000. Success, or failure? Or are these the actions of a man who does not allow someone else to define him. That is where we are going. No one else gets to define us. Not even those old negative tapes. We will be present, instead. Just, fully present to ourselves, and to our worlds. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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