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In a totally new place and need perspective? Cedar? Anyone?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 666480" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I want to share something I wrote long ago about the feelings that come up for me when I am in emotional flashback. I did not know the word then, but I want to know if these thoughts come up for you.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I am not safe.</p><p>I can't do it.</p><p>Something bad will happen.</p><p>I will be flooded with fear or another bad emotion if xxx happens.</p><p>I will lose control of myself and do something that will cause danger or shame.</p><p>Something bad will happen to xxx who will become hurt, sick or injured.</p><p>I will be in a situation that is too much for me, without a way out, no one to help me, and all alone.</p><p>I will freeze and lose control of something that is vitally important to my safety or that of others.</p><p></p><p></p><p>What is remarkable to me is how child-centric these thoughts seem. A child when faced with trauma, or something beyond their capacity to endure would have these thoughts, I think. An adult, not so much.</p><p></p><p>I am also struck that this is what I feel like when I get scared driving. Strangely, this insight gives me some hope that I can overcome my fear (except for M's contribution.) He is such a back seat driver (although he is way better than he was...and so lacks confidence in me as a driver...I do not see how I can gain confidence unless I insist he wear a bag over his head.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 666480, member: 18958"] I want to share something I wrote long ago about the feelings that come up for me when I am in emotional flashback. I did not know the word then, but I want to know if these thoughts come up for you. I am not safe. I can't do it. Something bad will happen. I will be flooded with fear or another bad emotion if xxx happens. I will lose control of myself and do something that will cause danger or shame. Something bad will happen to xxx who will become hurt, sick or injured. I will be in a situation that is too much for me, without a way out, no one to help me, and all alone. I will freeze and lose control of something that is vitally important to my safety or that of others. What is remarkable to me is how child-centric these thoughts seem. A child when faced with trauma, or something beyond their capacity to endure would have these thoughts, I think. An adult, not so much. I am also struck that this is what I feel like when I get scared driving. Strangely, this insight gives me some hope that I can overcome my fear (except for M's contribution.) He is such a back seat driver (although he is way better than he was...and so lacks confidence in me as a driver...I do not see how I can gain confidence unless I insist he wear a bag over his head.) [/QUOTE]
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