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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 608925" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>It is early morning, and I am going to Watercooler to try Recovering's relaxation music that she posted for us. Before I do that though, I wanted to post that since around 4 a.m., I have been lying awake worrying about that dress. Of course, it isn't the dress. Either I am losing it altogether (oh, GREAT) or...this is what I always do. Only this time, the pattern of anxiety is over a dress. I realize the reaction is inappropriate...but I still can't seem to let it go. I am amazed that my anxiety center can't tell the difference between a dress and difficult child repeatedly narrowly escaping death.</p><p></p><p>PTSD, for sure.</p><p></p><p>Recovering is right.</p><p> </p><p>Too many shocks, too much horror in too short a time sets some anxiety process onto autopilot. As I was thinking about that, I realized that, as granddaughter and I have been looking at dresses online since Friday night (she is four hours away, remember), I have not practiced either karate or yoga. Nor have I meditated. I did watch Joel Osteen yesterday, but I couldn't concentrate ~ already in do or die mode over the dress thing. Would I find it, how would I get it there in time, was it the right size/color (no, on the color thing). </p><p></p><p>And here is the thing: difficult child has the dress. As of yesterday afternoon, it was all out of my hands. husband and I had done all we could, and had done it well. </p><p></p><p>PTSD, for sure.</p><p></p><p>We must throw ourselves into fight or flight mode so often that it becomes an almost instantaneous and automatic response to any challenging situation. Usually though, the situation is dire enough that we attribute our emotional states to something that makes sense. But I am thinking now that this high-anxiety thing needs to be dealt with, no matter what the nature of the situation that brought it on.</p><p>Obviously, it isn't just what happens to us when we are waiting to hear that something really bad has happened.</p><p></p><p>This is a messed up response, an indication of traumatic damage. An anxiety response of any kind ~ sleeplessness, startle-reflex, overeating ~ has nothing to do with the seriousness of what is happening. It is hyperawareness, come of too many desperate times that things went wrong no matter what we did, no matter how we prepared, no matter how tightly we had sewn everything up. </p><p></p><p>That being the case, our business has to be changing from sympathetic nervous system stimulation to parasympathetic. From fight or flight to eat and sleep. I suppose that is what we are trying to do when we overeat during challenging times. Pull ourselves out of fight or flight mode. </p><p></p><p>Here is the good news, guys: Now that I know? That anxiety response is history.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>This must be why Recovering is always telling us we need to take care of ourselves. Even when we think we are okay? We aren't. </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 608925, member: 1721"] It is early morning, and I am going to Watercooler to try Recovering's relaxation music that she posted for us. Before I do that though, I wanted to post that since around 4 a.m., I have been lying awake worrying about that dress. Of course, it isn't the dress. Either I am losing it altogether (oh, GREAT) or...this is what I always do. Only this time, the pattern of anxiety is over a dress. I realize the reaction is inappropriate...but I still can't seem to let it go. I am amazed that my anxiety center can't tell the difference between a dress and difficult child repeatedly narrowly escaping death. PTSD, for sure. Recovering is right. Too many shocks, too much horror in too short a time sets some anxiety process onto autopilot. As I was thinking about that, I realized that, as granddaughter and I have been looking at dresses online since Friday night (she is four hours away, remember), I have not practiced either karate or yoga. Nor have I meditated. I did watch Joel Osteen yesterday, but I couldn't concentrate ~ already in do or die mode over the dress thing. Would I find it, how would I get it there in time, was it the right size/color (no, on the color thing). And here is the thing: difficult child has the dress. As of yesterday afternoon, it was all out of my hands. husband and I had done all we could, and had done it well. PTSD, for sure. We must throw ourselves into fight or flight mode so often that it becomes an almost instantaneous and automatic response to any challenging situation. Usually though, the situation is dire enough that we attribute our emotional states to something that makes sense. But I am thinking now that this high-anxiety thing needs to be dealt with, no matter what the nature of the situation that brought it on. Obviously, it isn't just what happens to us when we are waiting to hear that something really bad has happened. This is a messed up response, an indication of traumatic damage. An anxiety response of any kind ~ sleeplessness, startle-reflex, overeating ~ has nothing to do with the seriousness of what is happening. It is hyperawareness, come of too many desperate times that things went wrong no matter what we did, no matter how we prepared, no matter how tightly we had sewn everything up. That being the case, our business has to be changing from sympathetic nervous system stimulation to parasympathetic. From fight or flight to eat and sleep. I suppose that is what we are trying to do when we overeat during challenging times. Pull ourselves out of fight or flight mode. Here is the good news, guys: Now that I know? That anxiety response is history. :O) This must be why Recovering is always telling us we need to take care of ourselves. Even when we think we are okay? We aren't. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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